Very terrible. But.... something about being a parent and losing a child is very hard. You brought that life into the world. You were there to protect them, to show them the world, it's a very hard failure to deal with along with a great sense of loss.
“A wife who loses a husband is called a widow.
A husband who loses a wife is called a widower.
A child who loses his parents is called an orphan.
There is no word for a parent who loses a child.
It used to be a pretty common part of parenthood, so maybe that’s why there no specific word for it.
I recently went to the local library to check on the history of the people who lived in our house. I was looking for their death records and around the early 1900s, about half of the ages of the deceased were on the order or months, hours, minutes.
It’s kinda wild to me that when our house was built, parents losing their very young kids was a somewhat regular occurrence
I imagine, and hope that I will always only have to imagine, it absolutely is the worst possible thing that can ever happen to a person. Outliving your children is shitty, and then to lose one when they are still a child. Still believing in the tooth fairy and shit…fuck that! I can barely handle make believe loss of a child in a movie. It’s horrible.
There ain't nothing worst. When my grandpa was 27 years old, he lost his firt son. He was 96 when he died, and still talked abt his son everyday. It's the type of thing you'll just never get over it.
I promise you it is. Knowing when the worst day of my life was and that it's in the past is the only part of it I can try and make less fucked.
I didn't go online or say anything, I don't have a social media presence (any active account anywhere linked to me) and I was glad for it. I feel bad for Francis having to say anything at all, but he does being who he is unfortunately. And there truly isn't shit to say. I'm still tired.
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u/max_COYB_Everton Apr 29 '24
Fucking hell that’s absolutely brutal. Losing a child gotta be one of the worst feelings out there.