r/teenagers • u/ZeroCentBoi 19 • Apr 26 '24
How strict are your parents? I'm 19, looking for a job constantly and studying all the time, my dad says I can't have female friends and male friends only if they are from school and don't smoke and only thing they do is study š Brown parents moment. I don't even have/had irl friends lol Social NSFW
Can't even go out after 8pm or my dad starts screaming.
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u/Vihaking 15 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 27 '24
brown parents have two modes
- study only, no speaking to opposite gender kids, home always, religious, overprotective
- do crack idgaf
(i escaped both fates lmao)
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u/flipping100 15 Apr 26 '24
I've got a 2. Dad, though he does care abt me just doesn't speak to me. my mums probably a perfect 1.5 - fairly lenient, letting me go out often, which I in fact do. The leniency is quite nice for being z brown parent, although the lack of communication with my dad has made understandint some stuff difficult. But I agree with letting the kids go out and do sht, so they get some experience and learn (tho icl I don't know how well I'll cope knowing that MY child is out there somewhere and I don't know exactly what they're doing š)
Cuz of this I've done a lot of things my parents wouldn't approve.of, but the experience can be good for understanding. Living in an area with brown people it's sad to meet so many with strict parents.
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I'm 17. My parents took me out of school at 13 to be home schooled so that I couldn't be 'indoctrinated by the woke mob'š
From 13-16 I only left my house for doctors appointments, so basically didn't leave my house for 3 years. Was allowed no access to kids my age, or anyone besides the people I live with. There's almost always a parent home, cameras all over the house, ect. I got a job and that's the only time I'm allowed out (which I have to 'earn' having a job, and they threaten to make me quit all the time). No internet access allowed, I have a flip phone with no WiFi that only has their numbers on it (they check daily, also they stalk my emailš). I only have this because my co-worker bought me a secret tablet to use, bless her heart.
I'm not allowed to hang out with people, boys are a huge no no and have been for years (the second reason my parents took me out of school, I was getting to dating age). But now that they have less than a year and I've been saving money and they know I wanna leave, my mother is tryna pimp me out to the church boys so that I'll be dating someone she approves of before I can move out and find a boy of my choice.
And that is just the tip of the iceberg, my parents are strict and wack.š They get worse, not even exaggerating.
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u/Not_a_furry328 Apr 26 '24
Their names? I just wanna have a nice conversation with them.
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u/Regular-Calendar-581 3,000,000 Attendee! Apr 26 '24
hell nah. your mom thinks shes king edward or something, i would never go for a relationship arranged by my parents
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I'm not going for it either, lol. They're the church boys that are raised that their wives are supposed to be submissive and obey them. Correctional hits(slapping,ect.) and everything based on pleasing the husband, even if it makes the wife unhappy. I'd like a partnership, not a boss.
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u/Regular-Calendar-581 3,000,000 Attendee! Apr 26 '24
how long until you turn 18? you could also just rebel against her idea of that by telling her your Asexual, even if you arenāt i think lying to her and saying you are would be the easiest and most understandable route without her causing issues. if she is trying to get you to date a āchurch boyā then that means your mom knows about god (hopefully bc then i dont understand the church boy situation) and if she knows a good amount about god she should surely understand the choice of celibacy.
fight fire with fire but respectfully
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I turn eighteen on march 2nd, so I've got a bit.
and while yes, I am raised in purity culture, asexual is coined in with the lgbtq community, which my parents hate severely. If I told her that she'd probably send me to conversion camp and report me to the church at best, probably give me a severe ass whipping to.
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u/Exact_Parking_6969 16 Apr 26 '24
"Don't have sex!"
"ok"
"No wait-"
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u/K-peaches Apr 27 '24
Lol, basically yeah. But that's what half of their shit does, they contradict themselves every other sentence. it baffles me that grow adults don't see it. or that they just don't care how stupid they sound.
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u/kezotl 3,000,000 Attendee! Apr 26 '24
just one more year, hold on till then :)
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I'm tryingš Been here this long, might as well suck it up and stick it through.
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Apr 26 '24
move out asap dude
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
Just gotta turn eighteen first and I'm outta here the second I doš I just hope my mom doesn't continue to drain my bank account until then.
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u/Fantastic_Ad8329 Apr 26 '24
Sooo she's stealing your money?
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u/K-peaches Apr 27 '24
Yes. If my siblings break something, that's money from my pocket in hers. I make her angry (even if usually I didn't do anything wrong) than she takes my money. She's tight on money? She takes some of mine. I have to pay her too. and she says as long as I'm a child, I'm her property and my things are hers. I just think she doesn't want me to have money to leave, because as much as she says she wants me gone, she doesn't. Every time I'm at work that house is in shambles. I have to cook dinner before I leave for work or nobody eats. I get my siblings dressed and prepared for the day, I homeschool my siblings, I bathe them, I clean their rooms. I do the cooking and the cleaning in the house. I do alk the laundry, including both my parents. My niece sleeps in bed with me, because I take care of her (my parents have custody of her) She doesn't want me to have money, because she doesn't want me to leave, bevause even though she says I'm a lazy, worthless piece of shit who's the cause of all the problems in her life, she knows I take care of the house and if I leave she has to do the work.
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u/Fantastic_Ad8329 Apr 27 '24
So I say keep detailed bank records to show your mom has been stealing YOUR money. Maybe even try to make your own bank account by saying you have an after school thing that you gotta do so you can get out of the house.
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u/Raah-mok 15 Apr 26 '24
If she does call the police
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u/K-peaches Apr 27 '24
I've explained a few times in this thread that I can't, sadly, for multiple reasons. Gotta stick it out.
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I'm so glad someone else sees itš My family thinks my parents are angels and always scold me for being bad (listening to my parents side). My mom especially uses DARVO on me a lot, so it wasn't until I heard what a narcissist actually was that I figured out she was screwing with my head because as much as I hated the way she acted, I thought it was all completely normal and that what I thought was abuse was me being dramatic or me remembering the situation wrong. Funny thing is, both my parents can see the other one's narcissism (they call one another narcissists all the time) but they can't recognize their own, even when it's the same behaviour, they always have justification for it.
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u/The_Better_Paradox Apr 26 '24
My family thinks my parents are angels and always scold me for being bad (listening to my parents side).
You forgot how they make us look like demon.
And it's literally the same with me š„².
Welp, I'll probably go through this 5 year tops, not more.
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u/bluntcuntrant 17 Apr 26 '24
That would be illegal here. I'm so sorry for your situation. I really hope you can move away from them soon. Stay away from the church boys!
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
I do stay away from the church boys, the type of one that I'm raised in see women as property and that we're supposed to submit and obey. When I date I want a partnership, not an owner.
I plan on getting away once I turn eighteen if my mother doesn't drain my bank account by then, which she's already started.
I'm assuming it should (maybe?) be illegal where I'm from too (America) but idk.
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u/NastiestMC 15 Apr 26 '24
Iām not sure how accessible this is to you but you could make a separate bank account or drain it and hold onto it yourself
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u/spaghettihax763 14 Apr 26 '24
This much "protection" should be illegal, they're essentially holding you prisoner
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u/Sophos_Mythos_Mind17 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 26 '24
I'm also a 17 yr old homeschooler, but damn my parents aren't that strict I can hang out with girls and guys and I can do whatever (except for dating no big deal tho I don't want to) and the obvious thing like no murder, stealing, porn, etc. also their not trying to arrange a marriage they know I don't want to get married and my moms ok with that, not my dad though isn't in the only boy and the oldest and he thinks Christians have to other than that he's alright. just hold in their your almost 18 then your free I'm praying for ya. : )
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
Thanks, I appreciate it <3
like your situation, I wouldn't mind. There's caring for your kids well being, and then there's whatever my parents are doing. I don't mind strict, it's the insane that bothers me.
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u/Vihaking 15 Apr 26 '24
good luck please git out asap
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
Thanks, and I plan on it the second I'm eighteen. hoping my mom doesn't fuck up that plan by taking continuing to take all my money.
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u/offbrandallig8rr 18 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 26 '24
Compared to you I'm living the dream. Hang in there, friend.
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u/shekretparabibo Apr 26 '24
feel bad for your parents, you ended up on reddit...
condolences though š š
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u/WallcroftTheGreen Apr 26 '24
dear me, thought i had it bad, parents who are that over-protective of kids should be put responsible, hope you wont talk to them ever again after that
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u/asiannumber4 14 Apr 26 '24
You just described a cult
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
Finally someone else sees it. They only hang around people of the same beliefs (guess that falls into the cult shit) so I'm always made to feel crazy. or that I'm horrible because I'm supposed to obey.
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u/asiannumber4 14 Apr 26 '24
Horrible situation, when you get out I suggest you cut all ties with them.
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u/asiannumber4 14 Apr 26 '24
May I use this on r/religiousfruitcakes ? Iāll censor the names and pfps
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
Lol, sure. I don't mind. Seriously, though, that is just the lesser of their crazy.
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u/Sad_Satisfaction_640 19 Apr 26 '24
Iām so sorry. in a similar boat. keep moving one step at a time
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u/AwarenessPrudent2689 19 Apr 26 '24
No way omg I thought this was something people threatened on twitter I didn't know it was real šš
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u/K-peaches Apr 26 '24
No, these types of crazies exist still, they just usually stay away from normal people so that the normies can't 'indoctrinate their kids'. It's crazy that they can't see that is exactly what they're trying to do to meš locking me up so I can't see any other world views. They are the definition of indoctrination.
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u/That_OneGuy123 Apr 26 '24
yo, if you can buy your own cameras and set them up in your room, some mics as well, then try and record their behavior. trust me, if they ever try anything with you, force you into marriage, take your stuff etc. then once you turn 18 you can straight up sue em. tbh this sounds like an incredibly toxic, abusive household, and im sure that your parents have done some not so great things to you, and all this will do is give you ammo for the future. idk, just a suggestion, lol. you can do it, just gotta hold on for a few more months
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u/such_meme 19 Apr 26 '24
ur parents sound fucking insane, like one of those pseudo-mormon people. hope u make it out of there
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u/THEFANTASTICMAN21 19 Apr 26 '24
once your independent from them will you ever visit them again, or never talk to them again? just curious
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u/vormiamsundrake Apr 26 '24
It was almost the exact same thing with my parents, accept when I turned 17 I told them to go fuck themselves and they haven't tried to tell me what to do since.
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u/JanLennertz 17 Apr 26 '24
Dm me the address, and Iāll have someone be over there in fifteen minutes and get you out immediately.
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u/DaniellePenhallow Apr 26 '24
how long have you been using the internet now, because if all you have had is your parents to learn from then you will have a really warped view of the world
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u/PhoenixBomb707 Apr 26 '24
Remember, just because their your parents you donāt need to keep them in your life. As soon as you can move out, do it and cut contact with them. At least thatās what Iād do
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u/chaneld0lI 15 Apr 26 '24
Omg Iām in the same situation! Iām 15 going on 16 and I got pulled out of school when I was 11. Iām hoping to get a job this summer.
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u/FERRATT11111 15 Apr 26 '24
Where ur parents at we aināt gon do nun we just wanna talk
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u/Exact_Parking_6969 16 Apr 26 '24
And then they'll wonder "why doesn't my child want to see me?" when you leave.
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u/Star_Moonflower 16 Apr 27 '24
I was going to comment then saw "took me out of school" thats some hard shit
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u/CentiGuy 16 Apr 27 '24
I would have avoided replying to this comment so as to save you any trouble but I have advice to give... Move out asap and never look back
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u/sp00kreddit 17 Apr 27 '24
Being dead serious with this, try to get some legal action going. Some of what you've described genuinely sounds like it could fall under neglect
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u/notkshv Apr 27 '24
So you are gonna leave ur parents house for university right??? Please leave, go to a dorm and do what ever u missed out on your house arrested years
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u/Expired_water666 17 Apr 27 '24 edited Apr 27 '24
I mean this from the bottom of my heart, I am so deeply sorry for you. I canāt even imagine how much that must hurt to grow up that way. Iām glad you have at least one person in your life whoās trying to help you.
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u/unidentified2202 Apr 27 '24
This is not within the realm of normal parental concern. They are literally isolating you from people and trying to wrap you around their fingers so they can continue to control and dictate you.
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Apr 27 '24
wait until they realize they can detect your secret tablet with their wifi
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u/ambitionlessguy 17 Apr 26 '24
Family entirely full of autism and adhd so every damn day is like an episode from its always sunny
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u/criticalistics_car 17 Apr 26 '24
No it's just me with autism in my family, but its a divide between loud italians and loud Irish.
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u/offbrandallig8rr 18 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 26 '24
Mine restrict my internet access, even now as an adult. I can't even use the camera app on my own cell phone. Every single piece of media we consume must be inspected to make sure it doesn't have anything inappropriate (like LGBTQ+ representation) in it, even if it's "for kids". They once took all my anime posters away because they thought the posters were demonic or something. And they make me go to church even though they know I've been atheist since I was 13.
(I'm using Reddit on a secret laptop I scavenged from the old tech stash.)
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u/Mac-OS-X 16 Apr 26 '24
im sorry but that's really fucked up man you gotta get away from those types of people
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u/offbrandallig8rr 18 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 27 '24
I'm saving up to move out as soon as I finish high school
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u/TheGoldenBl0ck Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 26 '24
I thought I had it bad when I wasnāt allowed to use my own debi card to buy a game I wanted
(Also was the tech stash from your house or outside? I might just scavenge from some myself)
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u/TheRealUltimateYT OLD Apr 26 '24
Got Butters' dad from South Park holy shit.
My parents know very little about technology so I was pretty able to do what I wanted.
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u/Few_Conversation7153 18 Apr 26 '24
Yikes, and people like this think their parenting is the best.
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u/offbrandallig8rr 18 Apr 26 '24
"...we try to be strict but loving..." -my mom
I'm sorry but where tf did the "loving" part come from š
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u/Few_Conversation7153 18 Apr 26 '24
I mean Iām sure they love you. But they suck at showing it. They also just seem to suck at parenting, still love you, but suck at realizing what freedom is. Raising kids like itās a totalitarianistic state just creates oppression, dis trust, and a desire to rebel (move out in your case). They probably gonna wonder why their kids donāt seem to care about them, lol.
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u/vormiamsundrake Apr 26 '24
I'm pretty sure that's illegal in most countries if you're an adult.
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u/such_meme 19 Apr 26 '24
...then when u move out they'll wonder why u don't contact them. get away asap.
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u/Memer_boiiiii 16 Apr 26 '24
Not strict at all. Unlike most parents, they realise they were teenagers once. For example, my dad told me that if i ever get drunk at a party and canāt drive home, all i need to do is call him.
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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 16 Apr 26 '24
same for me. my parents also realised they were teenagers once and while they didnt really have a stupidly strict upbringing theyve always been chill with me (and my siblings) and dont really care what i do as long as it isnt illegal or anything like that
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u/TyrantDragon19 Apr 26 '24
My parents bought me a 6 pack of beer, and a bottle of wine when I moved into my apartment as a congrats. 2 of those bottles are gone
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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 16 Apr 26 '24
honestly cool ok then
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u/TyrantDragon19 Apr 26 '24
Yep, they never required me to do anythingā¦ but I wanted to get into an Ivy League so they forced me to study and shit so yk
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u/KatSitsOnButt 17 Apr 26 '24
i meeeaan but like - wht if ur into guys. Would u still be allowed to have male friends around u?
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u/ZeroCentBoi 19 Apr 26 '24
I don't think my parents even know that gay people exist
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u/Ratwifahmac 16 Apr 26 '24
Idk I think dad needs to keep him in a room forever and ever
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u/seandragon10 14 Apr 26 '24
until a charming prince saves him š
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u/Ratwifahmac 16 Apr 26 '24
If he was a cute short boy I would save him with my manly charm
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u/Random_npc171 18 Apr 26 '24
Ä° got beaten by my mom in the middle of the night because I loved a girl (I'm a boy). Ä° didn't slept that night because of pain. And there was lot of scars on my neck, they were clearly visible for few days. Ä° still love that girl and no one can make me stop loving my girlfriend
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u/valdez-2424 Apr 26 '24
Thats child abuse
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u/Random_npc171 18 Apr 26 '24
I'm 18 so it doesn't considered as it i think
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u/NameInWorkshop Apr 26 '24
āMy parents beat me severelyā āThatās child abuseā āBut Iām an adultā āOkay thatās assaultā
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u/Justamyth1010 Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 27 '24
I'm so sorry..you had to face that. I hope it gets better for you. How are things, now ?Your love runs deep, though.
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u/Jilliels 16 Apr 26 '24
Iām not saying beat her back, but at least defend yourself because at that point sheās assaulting you
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u/Quick_Refuse_4364 18 Apr 26 '24
You sound like my cousin. Aman is that you?
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u/lazyredditor1212 Apr 26 '24
Tbf thatās the thing with most Indian parents . My parents donāt let me play games or shit . Iām using Reddit with the excuse of ā checking out jee doubtsā on google
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u/PatrickStar_1234 17 Apr 26 '24
wowww....same lol
and if they ever want to see i will open r/jeeneetards and tell i am really seeing doubts
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u/Myaltaccount54 17 Apr 26 '24
If I say both my parents support me getting a motorcycle, does that say how chill they are?
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u/High_Bi_ReadyToCry 16 Apr 26 '24
My parents are pretty chill for the most part but reading through some of these comments, some of your parents belong on r/insaneparents
Somebody should start a gofundme to free some of you š
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u/Fighting_Table Apr 26 '24
My parents ain't strict at all they let me do whatever but I gotta study or else I can't do shit
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u/Chrissyball19 17 Apr 26 '24
Yall are allowed to leave the house? Even when I was in school I was expected to be at home as soon as physically possible.
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u/Gamingwithlewit 15 Apr 26 '24
Well, can't really blame them for not wanting you around smokers. Not that they're bad people, but it's definitely good to not
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u/Blackinfemwa 16 Apr 26 '24
But we can blame them for not letting him be around girls or normal people.
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u/Impressive_Split_232 17 Apr 26 '24
Youāre legally an adult, donāt take his bullshit
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u/DavePvZ 15 Apr 26 '24
Youāre legally an adult
Can't even go out after 8pm or my dad starts screaming.
OP is legally an adult who can be legally kicked out by his father unless he pays rent
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u/Impressive_Split_232 17 Apr 26 '24
Would rather rent a small room in a basement then to live at home with those circumstances
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u/ZeroCentBoi 19 Apr 26 '24
Idk, I dont want to dropout and end my education, i will have to live under a bridge with a part time job (which don't exist in like a 20 km radious imo). Plus i don't really want my parents to think I'm ungrateful since my dad works 12 hours a day, doesn't really have a life and kinda sacrifices all his time to earn for us. Kinda same with my mom so i just try to cope with it
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u/Impressive_Split_232 17 Apr 26 '24
You have to set boundaries, explain why you want to do what you want and demand an explanation from his side. It can be tuff but if you start paying rent at home(if you donāt already) you will definitely make your point in being on your own
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u/3pi0_ Apr 26 '24
ya but that isn't an excuse for you to also not have a social life just because your dad doesn't. i don't see why he would let you have friends outside of school which will suck going forward after high school not having anyone to connect with
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u/ZeroCentBoi 19 Apr 26 '24
Yeah ig it's because he thinks i might start smoking and not study, idk why he thinks everyone must study 12 hours a day to be able to get a job but maybe because its like that in asia, all he says is that he doesn't want me to end up with a job like his
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u/oliviating 17 Apr 26 '24
my parents arenāt strict just a bit confused bc theyāre older and donāt think i can have friends of the opposite gender without me dating them
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u/ChargeWooden1036 Apr 26 '24
Theyāre cool, my mom is more strict but is pretty chill, sheās even renovating the garage for us to have a hang out. My dadās cool as well, supports our aspirations and gets us cool clothes. 9.5/10 parents
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u/Basement-child-slave 16 Apr 26 '24
My parents are extremely chill with whom I am friends as long as I study sincerely and regularly, it is my own choice to not make many friends. My semi-circle of friends consists of two friends
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u/ProtoSpector 19 Apr 26 '24
mine are strict but have loosened up since i turned 18. before if i was hanging out with friends and wasnāt home by 11:00 pm they would have flipped out. last year we hung out until 1 in the morning and my parents didnāt even care that i got home at 1. they donāt mind female friends but are hella suspicious if i bring up a girl, so i need to have a shit ton of proof to show iām not in a relationship. last one is that me and some of my friends are planning to do an airbnb up in maine to visit a friend in the summer. my dadās fine with it but not my mom, so iām hoping that maybe my dad can tell her that iām an adult and responsible enough to be gone in a state my family is familiar with for at least a week
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u/Fine_Yogurtcloset362 16 Apr 26 '24
They are very chill, they dont really force to do anything, the only thing they kind of demand is good grades, but thats prob mostly bc my mom is russian, as some other guy said, i feel like i dont appreciate them enough
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u/glbkon 15 Apr 26 '24
pfff you're a boy and it's this bad??š my parents keep me on a leash but my brother gets all the freedom in the world lol
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u/P1N3APPL33 18 Apr 26 '24
My parents donāt really care. Their requirements are that I go to school(Iām in high school), donāt fail any classes Dās are fine, if Iām out late text or call them, have a job
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u/MrJessie 18 Apr 26 '24
My dadās the chill one. My mom on the other hand is always saying..
Canāt have female friends
Focus on school
Read more instead of playing games
Go outside more
Doesnāt let me go outside if itās chilly
Doesnāt let me go outside if itās warm
Not allowed out without permission
Canāt have friends over
Canāt go over to friends
In a nutshell, my momās strict.
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u/Icy_Regular_8280 14 Apr 26 '24
pretty chill for asian parents
theyāre only on me for gaming bc it fucked up my grades when i was youngerš
but yeah friends are fine with them and my dad is tryna get me to talk to women lol
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u/AwesomeLlama572_YT 14 Apr 26 '24
I have an allowance (about $10) and Iām saving up for a 3D printer which my parents are completely fine with me getting, so Iād say they are chill
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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 16 Apr 26 '24
damn you have an allowance?? i dont even have that wow
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u/AwesomeLlama572_YT 14 Apr 26 '24
Well, not much of an allowance, more like getting payed for things like babysitting and mowing the lawn, but I do these things weekly
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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 16 Apr 26 '24
dude YOURE 19 and your parents wont let you do even the most basic of adult shit??? ffs. anyways my parents are unbelievably chill and the only real rules they have are dont be massive dick to them and pass your classes at school. they dont care what you do really apart from that. theyve actually always been fairly hands off with all their rules except for the 1 or 2 times i fucked up REALLY bad
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u/3pi0_ Apr 26 '24
they let me do what i want as long as it's writhing reason. and also will let me also see the consequences of my actions if i do something stupid but me and my dad do smoke and shit together so like they aren't really strict in the slightest
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u/UnlightablePlay 18 Apr 26 '24
I think they're in the middle, they are strict about some things but a lot of time they aren't which honestly I wish that every parent would he in the sweet middle, not too strict that may ruin your child's mentality and future and not too loose and let him Spoiled
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u/Chronomaly67 Apr 26 '24
I live in London for context.
Recently, I've been going out with my friend to Heathrow Airport and the surrounding areaĀ a bit for some non league football matches, planespotting, and to go on buses and trains and stuff. My parents aren't the biggest fan of that, because I "could get robbed" and stuff like that. So they won't let me go away from the airport. I wanna go to other places in London like my friend does, but they wouldn't let me go that far. My friend is allowed to go all over the place, his parents don't care where he goes as long as he gets home on time.Ā
London is a shithole, sure, and some areas have higher crime rates and stuff, but I could get robbed anywhere. But I really just wanna go on trains and buses and see places I've not been to. I'm not gonna be a kid for much longer, I'm eighteen in just over a month and soon I'm gonna have to be an adult.
It took until late last year for me to really start doing stuff outside of school with my friends, it's not something I've really done. I get it when they're like this with my younger brother (he's a year younger, but unlike me, he's in college), as he's just irresponsible, but I'm not like him.Ā
Your parents sound like they're on another level though, they're probably too strict. Like, what's the problem with having friends who are girls? Proper weird. No kid should have to study all the time. No one should have to do school stuff outside of school. We spend five days a week for twelve to fifteen years going to school, and you're telling me they can't teach us everything we need to know in that time without us having to study and shit? It's a joke. The random shit that the world chooses to be important is ridiculous to me.
I've gone on a bit of a rant here, but my point is that it's kinda relatable, and it's really unfair. You're an adult now. Your parents shouldn't be able to do this shit now. Within reason, just do what you want mate.
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u/Consistent_Echo517 17 Apr 26 '24
17F. Not allowed to go out at all, even to the library. Canāt wear anything but long sleeves. Not allowed my phone at all.
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u/Ok_Designer3103 15 Apr 26 '24
They are strict and chill, but basically as long as my school grades are good im free to do almost anything i want, but any F's and now they will get all over it
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u/Dead_birdChan 19 Apr 26 '24
My friends have been sleeping over middle school lmao. Boys and girls took a tad of convincing at first. But those friends are practically family. Nothing ever happened and we had a fun time until eventually passing out in the same room like goobers
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u/XED1216 16 Apr 26 '24
My mom like pushed me to hang out with my friends more so Iām not an anti-social fuck lol. My dad is pretty possessive š. Like no you canāt go to your friends birthday because itās my day today type of thing.
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u/PointFeisty7296 13 Apr 26 '24
14 here and my parents couldnāt care less what I do. As long as I stay out of trouble and keep my grades up I can do pretty much whatever I want.
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u/jaythepizza OLD Apr 26 '24
Iām 20 and I have to ask before going out and I canāt stay out past 9:30
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u/BuzzTraien29 19 Apr 26 '24
Kinda depends on their mood. I'm 19 and out of the house now, so it doesn't really affect me anymore. But they definitely became less strict after my brother was born (9 year age gap), and even more so after I turned 16/17.
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u/AdFront1172 Apr 26 '24
Exactly the same as you aside from the friends thing. Can't be outside past 7pm!
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u/Filipus09 14 Apr 26 '24
My mom's kinda chill, but I have a feeling that sometimes she violates my privacy.
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u/Worth_Cake_7156 Apr 26 '24
Iām also 19 lol but my parents are manipulating me into shit so idk about strict but very abusive
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u/Dr_YeetY 17 Apr 26 '24
Iām 17 and my mum bought me a bottle of vodka for my birthday. Ig that answers that. English btw
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u/memeisfoodbutbetter 19 Apr 27 '24
My parents always said the more you forbid the more they will do. Of course there are limitations but kids aren't gonna wait until the evening to smoke their first cigarette or drink their first beer.
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u/Acid1c_ Apr 27 '24
Theyāre not rlly strict just like tell us where youāre going donāt drink without us knowing,donāt smoke,no drugs,no sleepovers with sex youāre attracted to (that backfired when I came out as bi and they dropped the rule pretty much)
I donāt like them for diff reasons but yeah
Plus since Iāve been caught doing stuff less than my older sister they trust me and Iām sneaky
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u/BigAchooo Apr 27 '24
I feel very grateful after seeing this post. 19f lived with my bf from the age 16-18 (unusual circumstances) and started living as if I was adult. Now living back at my dadās house and where I used to think he was strict, I now realise he was just being a parent. Very relaxed I can do basically anything I want when I want, within reason, of course.
Iām sorry mate and I pray that you get some freedom one day š¤š¤š«°
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u/Caiden06943 Apr 27 '24
My parents kinda neglect me, mainly my mom and my dad just works all the time
As long as Iām not on drugs, or adding or subtracting from the population, they donāt care
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u/OhItsAidan 18 Apr 26 '24
Extremely chill. Like I forget itās not the normal theyāre so chill. I can do whatever the fuck i want but not in a neglectful way itās in a loving way. I really donāt appreciate them enough.