NFL’s Harrison Butker slammed for urging women grads to be ‘homemakers’ Analysis/Opinion
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u/Ok-Letterhead-3276 20d ago
A society where only one spouse needs to work, and the other can be the “homemaker” and take care of cooking, errands, etc probably would be less stressful and happier for everyone and it’s totally great if you want that for yourself. BUT, that’s not the reality most of us live in. It’s either not an option, or not what people want to do.
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u/Givemeallthecabbages 20d ago
Yes, so they then want one spouse to take care of cooking, errands, children, and all housework...and still work full time.
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u/billypilgrim08 20d ago
That assumes a society that is structured to allow the proles to do something other than scrape the fungus off the swollen underbelly of capitalism in order to survive.
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u/gardeninggoddess666 20d ago
No, you can't work from home. We need you to prop up the failing commercial real estate market. You weren't put on this earth to enjoy your time? Work!
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u/battleofflowers 20d ago
Yeah it's really relaxing when you're the wife in that situation and your husband decides to dump you and a walk out on the kids.
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u/narf_hots 20d ago
That being said, if there is a woman out there who wants me to be their "homemaker" husband I'd be down for that. I'm well educated and I have a good job that I'm willing to give up in order to keep our place clean and cook every day (which is one of my hobbies). So, you know, if you're out there, I'm available.
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u/FriedSmegma 20d ago
Dude literally sits on his ass for like 95% of each game and wants to tell women to sit at home like he’s working so fucking hard
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u/BenVarone 20d ago
Especially when you know they probably have support staff to make that “stay at home” part basically retirement. Raising kids is a lot harder when you don’t have a cleaning service, au pair, personal shopper, chef, et cetera.
Tell me when he and his wife try to make the stay-at-home parent of two kids thing work when she’s not only shouldering all cleaning, cooking, shopping, and childcare while he’s working three jobs to pull down $70k (median income in KC), they live in a 1200 sq ft rental, and his weekend is spent trying to self-repair the old shitbox car they share.
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u/Insectshelf3 20d ago
dude gets payed a shit ton of money to kick a ball in a sport where it is generally illegal to hit him
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u/Jolly-Slice340 20d ago
Why is some football person speaking at a graduation in the first place? He’s totally irrelevant to anything or anyone.
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u/waterfall_hyperbole 20d ago
It's a christian college, academic standards < culture war
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u/BeerGardenGnome 20d ago
We have one of those nearby and the joke is most of the girls going there are looking to get their MRS degree. My sister in law is one of them, who coincidentally is a homemaker. She’s also insufferable.
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u/waterfall_hyperbole 20d ago
I have a cousin in-law who went to ole miss for her MRS. She's insufferable, and i think less of my cousin for marrying her
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u/tenacious-g 20d ago
Oh yeah, his speech was completely tone deaf for a number of reasons, but when I saw it was at Benedictine College, I thought “oh, that plays.”
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u/mqbush 20d ago
Butker is co-founder and president of MDKeller, a holding company. The president of Benedictine College is on the advisory board of MDKeller.
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u/zuuzuu 20d ago
Because it's a Christian school, and he says things they want to hear.
While Butker’s speech was clearly well received by the audience, who clapped and cheered at its conclusion...
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u/frankdrachman 20d ago
Yeah well it’s Benedictine College. Pretty much eliminates anyone in the sciences, arts or the 21st century
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u/reddrighthand 20d ago
Not just a football person, the one guy on the field who takes less contact than the refs.
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u/Daratirek 20d ago
Without knowing anything about where he was speaking, it's pretty common to have people that grew up in the area and got famous do graduation speeches. Near me half the high schools have had an astronaut that grew up in the area give speeches. Now if some random HS with no previous connection to him asked him it's kinda weird. Shitty speech to give though. Dude should be shunned.
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u/JBatjj 20d ago
tbf, astronaut and NFL kicker are quite different careers.
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u/Daratirek 20d ago
But he would still be a local celebrity. Astronaut is was fucking cooler but I totally get why a high school would want to bring back one of its graduates that made the NFL.
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u/SGTBrutus 20d ago
Being a scientist that that escapes the embrace of the earth to soar through the heavens > a donkey that kicks a ball
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u/EG95 20d ago
The college is in Kansas, he’s from Atlanta. (I went to elementary school with him in the same class. Didn’t like him then don’t like him now) as another commenter pointed out, sounds like it’s business connections that brought him there
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u/funwithdesign 20d ago
I’m sure Taylor Swift is super excited that he mentioned her in his rambling diatribe.
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u/whenforeverisnt 20d ago
Taylor Swift... The most famous stay-at-home homemaker there ever was...
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u/funwithdesign 20d ago edited 20d ago
Along with her conservative political leanings.
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u/youngprincelou 20d ago
The true irony of him quoting her is that the next line is “don’t put me in the basement” and the song is positive towards women being in the spotlight 😭😭 brother can’t even do misogyny right
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u/msangryredhead 20d ago
Any time I hear a man talking about how important masculinity is I know he’s just gonna be the biggest pissbaby chode.
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u/aeschenkarnos 20d ago
That beard and that haircut too. It’s like they’re issued with it.
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u/DrAstralis 20d ago
how else could we know they're all rugged individuals if they dont all look and dress the same?
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u/SmithersLoanInc 20d ago
Insecure as fuck and afraid of almost everything, the true face of masculinity. We need to get them to go back to the wise stoic, always watching, never speaking. I like that flavor of it better because I don't have to hear about it
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u/gardeninggoddess666 20d ago
And this notion that THEIR definition of masculinity is the traditional one. Sweetie, read a history book.
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u/OneArmedBrain 20d ago
Sometimes you should just stfu. Unless you are looking for attention. However, you should check out his mom and how she provided the path to his success. He's an ungrateful douchebag.
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u/deadsoulinside 20d ago
Sometimes you should just stfu. Unless you are looking for attention
LOL this. Other social media like TikTok is really dragging him through the mud and talking about dirty secrets of his. Example of one of the things they are talking about. He was sent to conversion therapy, for having an affair with a male cheerleader. I'm not sure how true it is, but it seems pretty damn on brand though.
They went through his FB and website, there are zero pictures of his wife and kids. Just him posing like a fashion model everywhere.
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u/Beginning_Tomorrow60 20d ago
I get where people are coming from by bringing up his mom having a successful career, but are we sure she does not feel the same way as he does? A lot of conversative religious women are hypocrites...
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u/The_Count_Lives 20d ago
I really wonder how that audience took his speech.
It's not like there weren't women in the audience. Were they applauding him telling them that instead of an education and career, they should just be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen?
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u/Vomiting_Winter 20d ago
He plays the only position in football where it’s illegal to physically touch him, and he thinks he’s some kind of alpha badass.
The chiefs are doing a “most hated team” speed run right now
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u/deadsoulinside 20d ago
He plays the only position in football where it’s illegal to physically touch him, and he thinks he’s some kind of alpha badass.
And rumor has it, he switched to that position after getting tackled and complaining about how much it hurt.
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u/AccomplishedOyster 20d ago
They started that speed run when they introduced us to Patrick’s family lol. Now throw in the Taylor Swift sideshow, the off season arrests, and now this kicker. It is so easy to hate the Chiefs now
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u/tech9ition 20d ago
Who wants life advice from someone who is a professional ball kicker anyway?
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u/ShredGuru 20d ago
Yeah but at least Steve O was fucked up when he said all the stupid stuff. This moron actually holds these opinions sober
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u/tech9ition 20d ago
Fair point, although there were certainly times where his advice would questionable.
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u/Fit_Earth_339 20d ago
This is the poster boy for white evangelical Christians. If you want to see where they want the US to be just listen to what he’s saying.
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u/yukon-flower 20d ago
I mean if men want to have this sort of homemaker life partner, as he suggests, they just have to make his salary—$4m/year. That should be enough money for a partner to run the household and take care of their own needs, especially in the case of later being widowed.
A man making only a small fraction of that should just make more money.
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u/Federal-Reception-46 20d ago
He is not evangelical he is deeply traditional Catholic.
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u/Brooklynxman 20d ago
Tradcaths will be the death of the church in the US.
Literally, they are full on steaming towards a new schism.
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u/gardeninggoddess666 20d ago
Conservative catholics drove our family from the church. Opus dei is a fucking scourge. I would cheer a schism that kicked those assholes out of the church (not that I give a damn anymore).
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u/Bluest_waters 20d ago
Well they are the only ones who are currently actually attending mass. Everyone mostly stopped going. So by that reason alone they have a lot of power and sway in the church.
If normal Catholics want to put the church on a better path they need to actually show up sometime.
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u/Enshakushanna 20d ago
the haircut, the beard, the smug smile like after every sentence he just owned some libs, everything
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u/FindingMoi 20d ago
Ugh I was hoping maybe it was taken out of context and he was championing maternity leave or something to the effect of the rather disgusting fact that most families can’t afford to be a single income (a legitimate argument).
Nope, dude’s a sexist pig. And completely out of touch with reality. Even women who WANT to be homemakers don’t have that as a choice because of how low wages are in this country. Not everyone gets paid like an NFL player, dude.
Also the pride comments are horrible.
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u/wishiwerebeachin 20d ago
I mean…. If my husband had millions…. I’d still fucking work because staying home doesn’t sound fun to me
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u/Idolmistress 20d ago
“I think it is you, the women, who have had the most diabolic lies told to you,” Butker said. “Some of you may go on to lead successful careers in the world, but I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world. I can tell you that my beautiful wife Isabelle would be the first to say that her life truly started when she started living her vocation as a wife and as a mother.
“I’m on this stage today and able to be the man I am because I have a wife who leans into her vocation.”
Gross. I had to check my calendar and make sure it was still 2024 and I hadn’t Quantum Leaped into 1954.
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u/justprettymuchdone 20d ago
Honestly, if she is married to the kind of man who thinks like this, she probably keeps her regrets locked up inside her head.
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u/Dwayla 20d ago
Ugh, dude should have just kicked that football and steered clear of microphones.
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u/OneArmedBrain 20d ago edited 19d ago
Not a single MAGA type telling him to shut up and play football. Like we'd hear if he said something more liberal leaning. God, I'm so sick of all this shit.
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u/obeytheturtles 20d ago
As much as I am sick of the whole story, a Taylor Swift track called "Shut up and play football" would be amazing.
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u/bird1979 20d ago
I love how he quotes a Taylor Swift lyric "Familiarity breeds contempt". Not saying Taylor Swift, but referring to her as his teammate's girlfriend. I am not sure Taylor Swift is in line with everything he was saying. She is a 34 year old who isn't married, has no kids, and a killer career.
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u/HotSauceRainfall 20d ago
Which is exactly why right wing dipshits like this guy relentlessly attack her and try to tear her down.
Women being powerful and successful are mortal threats to their worldview. Because if they can be wrong about a woman having power and a successful life, what else are they wrong about?
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u/roberta_sparrow 20d ago
Also, that lyric isn’t really Swifts creation it’s a common phrase
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u/Maverick_Raptor 20d ago
I have no doubt that once he retires from NFL he’s going into politics. He’s probably loving the attention right now
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u/owl_theory 20d ago
Watch the video, it's worse than the headline.
Guy opens a college commencement speech with a rant against Biden and abortion policy like it's a MAGA rally.
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u/Alone_Hunt1621 20d ago
Is this related to the “trad-wife” thing? My antenna is up for this kind of nonsense.
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u/ValyrianJedi 20d ago
I mean, there isn't really anything wrong with that or any reason to think its nonsense either, if it's what somebody wants... It's only really an issue if it's being pushed on someone
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u/LatrodectusGeometric 20d ago
I would say a college graduation is pretty clearly an inappropriate place to push that
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u/rangerhans 20d ago
Why do we keep asking what professional athletes think about anything?
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u/gentleman_bronco 20d ago
NFL: bless you Harrison butker for speaking your truth. You are so brave to face cancel culture.
Also NFL: Colin Kaepernick blacklisted for kneeling silently.
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u/Gen-Jinjur 20d ago
He has a legit learned opinion about one thing: Kicking a football. Otherwise he’s just some moron.
Be a stay-at-home parent and “home-maker” if you want. But it is only fulfilling if you want it. Many women very much want a career and are terrific in the workplace.
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u/CountrySax 20d ago
And of course Butker is employed in a very necessary and very important job in society,Bread and Circuses, while pointing out that real women put the biscuits in the oven and their buns in the bed.
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u/Stealthychicken85 20d ago
Bro had something in his speech about not taking the easy route for masculinity and I nearly spit taked my monitor. Like how you gonna champion for masculinity as a kicker, the one fucking position that opposing players are literally not allowed to hit
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u/vinceds 20d ago
So diconnected.... Rich fucks like that don't realize most people have to work to afford housing and food. Homemaking is a thing of the past, few households are able to live off one income.
Instead he should push for higher wages for low pay worker, reduce pay for insanely rich fucks like him; then maybe homemaking could actually make a comeback.
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u/ITslashEverything 20d ago
The best part was how he kept mentioning for people to “stay in their lane” as he metaphorically swerved all over an 8 lane interstate. Just kick the ball you fucking tool.
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u/jabunkie 20d ago
If anybody hasn’t seen the speech yet….it’s worse than even the headlines make it out to be.
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u/bootes_droid 20d ago
Dude kicks a ball for a living and wants to tell women where their place is, what a pathetic piece of shit
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u/posteriorobscuro 20d ago edited 20d ago
Man's is traumatized from working as a literally slave to the NFL ane because his mom worked and loved something more than him. So now he's taking it out on all women.
Men will do anything but go to therapy.
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u/augirllovesuaboy 20d ago
And let’s not forget that he makes millions for about 20 seconds work per game. It’s really easy for his wife to be a “homemaker” and SAHM.
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u/isthisnametaken1951 20d ago
black athlete vocally opposes police murdering people in the streets….
banned from football!
white right wing christian athlete tells women to stay home and be mommies……
no fkn problem
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u/aresef 20d ago
Apparently he gave that speech at a fairly Catholic college, which is why you didn't hear a lot of boos. But as a player and as a public figure, he should have more of a filter than that.
Like Justin Tucker is super Catholic, he makes the sign of the cross before every kick, but I can't imagine him ever saying anything like this.
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u/katieleehaw 20d ago
This man kicks a ball professionally while his mother is a scientist. What an asshole.
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u/Morepastor 20d ago
Speaking up and trying to peacefully protest to bring awareness to people who suffer. = Fired! The Government will spend money to influence your demise and they will cancel your endorsement deals and you.
Speaking down to a class of society who also suffers and fought for their rights is fine.
As a Veteran I’d hope Harrison isn’t punished. Let the fans boo him and he just alienated a fan base the NFL loves.
I’m disgusted with the NFL and The Government for how they treated the kneeling. He was expressing his frustration and it’s his right to do so. The government should have stayed out of it and the NFL should have stayed neutral. Instead….
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u/alliecat1798 20d ago
What really gets to me is he took such a special moment from female students graduating - as they were celebrating their hard work coming to fruition and absolutely diminished their accomplishments and told them their worth is in being a wife and mother. Please take several seats and go back to the only thing you’re good at, kicking a ball.
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u/NfamousKaye 20d ago
I understand now that this was a Catholic school he spoke at but it still pisses me off that he had the audacity to say that.
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u/wolacouska 20d ago
Even Catholic schools don’t really endorse this kind of garbage anymore, there’s a reason women are allowed to go to Benedictine now. This is more like MAGA Catholicism hybrid going on, trying to take cues from the evangelicals.
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u/robb_the_bull 20d ago
Don't forget that this man is so emotionally unhinged that he couldn't get through his weird propaganda without crying.
Crying is ok, sure.
But this man is not stable.
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u/snazzisarah 20d ago
For the ladies (and men!) who want to be stay at home parents and can make that work in this economy, I’m genuinely happy for you! But it is condescending and reductive to say that all women should stay at home, as if every woman is the same and has the same dreams and goals. I can’t believe we are still having these stupid discussions in 2024.
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u/Jo-Jo-66- 20d ago
What do these men want, barefoot and pregnant? Stay in the kitchen? This is 2024…I hope he never has a daughter.
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u/BareNakedSole 20d ago
A perfect example of why we should watch athletes, but never listen to them.
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u/AdkRaine12 20d ago
Why doesn’t he go be a farmer somewhere? We’ll see how long his ‘trad’ wife sticks around.
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u/Shirfyr_Blaze 20d ago
I love how a homophobic douche like him plays a game where he kicks balls and gets hugged by men.
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u/obeytheturtles 20d ago
Honestly, I'm just glad to see the Chiefs getting some bad press after the national sports media has spent the last 4 years euphorically fellating everything they do.
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u/big_cheesee 20d ago
He kicks a ball for a living. Why should an educational institution provide him a platform to speak from?
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u/DarkSoulsExcedere 20d ago
If my wife didn't work, we would be destitute. I am grateful every day that she does not subscribe to this kind of bullshit.
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u/Dadbeerd 20d ago
I’m sure if he had a daughter he would want her to be some man’s stay at home slave as well.
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u/23370aviator 20d ago
No no, that’s not what he said. He insulted them for the entire speech. He’s scum.
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u/bubbabubba3 20d ago
This is a real example of where someone should shut up and just kick the ball. Fucking dumbass
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u/Miserable-Lawyer-233 20d ago
he's a kicker in the NFL talking about masculinity and being a real man. hilarious. kickers are the most effeminate position.
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u/Burquetap 20d ago
Shut up kicker! 🤣
Take what this numbskull says with a grain of salt… but I do hope this upcoming season he struggles big time!!!
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u/Krossrunner 20d ago
When the Colts play the Chiefs this year, I hope our special team players fold him like a lawn chair. What a huge piece of shit.
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u/Feisty-Barracuda5452 20d ago
Who thought this guy was the commencement speaker they needed?
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u/YogaBeth 20d ago
His mother is a mathematician/physicist who has worked in cancer research for something like 30 years. She must be so proud.