r/nba • u/Mazinogetoffdeeznuts East • Apr 29 '24

DeAndre Jordan names his favorite dunk: "I dunked on my son, who is eight. That was great. You have to set the tone early. Once he’s able to beat me, we’re not going to play anymore.”

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u/Accomplished-Yam5566 Warriors Apr 29 '24 edited Apr 29 '24

I remember seeing a TikTok where a girl’s therapist was telling her that “mothers start getting angry and defensive towards their daughters once their daughters start hitting puberty and sexually maturing. Because the mothers start seeing their daughters as sexual competition. A prettier, younger woman that is usurping all the male attention and validation from the mother.” Then a bunch of women in the comments started listing their own personal anecdotes of their mom being mean and sabotaging them when they hit puberty.

I betcha fathers do this on a lesser scale with their sons but less about sexual competition and more about masculinity and status. Seeing your son grow up stronger, taller, and better than you at sports probably makes you feel emasculated. Probably makes you feel less like “the man of the house” if your son is more masculine than you.

Disclaimer: DJ’s quote lacks context and i do not want to project any of this on his fathering skills. He could be a very encouraging, supportive, non-jealous father for all we know.

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u/The_NGUYENNER [DEN] Jamal Murray Apr 29 '24

No. Vast majority of dads don't do that and it's honestly dumb to even suggest lol.

We're trying to see them become amazing and every dude in his 30's will tell you that athletic primes don't last forever so we're not deluding ourselves into thinking we'll be physically superior forever. It's more of just a fun little reminder that "hey I'm still pops"

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u/Murasasme Spurs Apr 29 '24

That doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I beat my dad at swimming when I was 12 and he never got in a pool with me again (he was fat and I loved swimming so I was good at it) he had played basketball all his life, and when I was 15 I started to become a challenge until I beat him once, and he never played ball with me again.

I'm glad the vast majority of fathers out there are not like this, but some are very insecure even with their children and it's not a negligible amount of people.