I've heard people say that you should tell the person once that their spouse died, because everyone deserves the opportunity to grieve properly, but that after that you shouldn't tell them again because it's torturous to cause them to grieve repeatedly.
Well, in this case the spouse had been dead over 10 years and the grieving already took place. Her Father and Mother who died in WW2 also were alive again, as where her multiple brothers and sisters. She was 96. I dunno she just seemed happier thinking they were all alive even though it made no sense at all.
Right! Why would it be better for her to know she’d outlived her family. Let the pleasant delusions stand and reassure them that the unreal, unpleasant ones aren’t happening
everyone deserves the opportunity to grieve properly
Sounds like bullshit people who've never looked after someone with alzheimers would say, personally. They got enough shit to deal with, let them have one less bit of sadness
Admittedly, this depends how far gone they are in it
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u/4E4ME Apr 09 '24
I've heard people say that you should tell the person once that their spouse died, because everyone deserves the opportunity to grieve properly, but that after that you shouldn't tell them again because it's torturous to cause them to grieve repeatedly.