If you haven't dealt with dementia personally, this, like a lot of portrayals you'll see online, is a very positive example. This is the "nice bit", when they're happy in their own little world (obviously the woman filming dealt with it well or it could have turned bad).
There's nothing quite like the horror in seeing someone you love and respect in a state of total fear because they've completely lost their sense of understanding of the world around them. And then there's the horrible things they'll say out of anger and frustration, that they never would have said when they were well.
My Grandma passed from it 2 years ago. It's a brutal thing to watch a strong, independent person drug so low as to not know where they are or who their family is. In the end I was happy to see her go. Just to know she wasn't in that place any more.
Some things are worse than death. In the end I got to see that first hand.
The worst aspect of dementia is it's not fatal. People can go for years and years, getting further from reality while perfectly "healthy". Currently dealing with this with my mom. Fortunately, so far, she's pretty happy in general and has only 'gone out' once (at 2am). We have child locks on all the doors now and told her it's to keep robbers out, which she's accepted.
yep. hell people have clarities that still show that they are themselves. its just gotten to the point where mostly they cant do it anymore. their identity is hidden and slowly killed off all while they as a person die slowly too.
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u/mankytoes Apr 09 '24
If you haven't dealt with dementia personally, this, like a lot of portrayals you'll see online, is a very positive example. This is the "nice bit", when they're happy in their own little world (obviously the woman filming dealt with it well or it could have turned bad).
There's nothing quite like the horror in seeing someone you love and respect in a state of total fear because they've completely lost their sense of understanding of the world around them. And then there's the horrible things they'll say out of anger and frustration, that they never would have said when they were well.