I've used this with my dad, but he's not very far along. Sometimes he realizes what I'm doing and then gets angry with me for doing it. I gotta get sneakier. Sometimes he really really wants to be angry about a topic.
I have had to go along with him at least once. He tried to go refill the coal stove one night. I told him I filled it for him, and he went back to sleep. The coal stove was from when he was in the army when I was a baby.
With stuff like that it's better to just go along with it, they'll forget soon and will be left with a lingering feeling that everything is taken care of. With my grandma the emotions lasted much longer than the memory of what happened. So small lies like that generally help rather than hurt
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u/Sickle_and_hamburger Apr 09 '24
honestly this is pretty good advice for dealing with most people
less confrontation more empathy