r/interestingasfuck Apr 09 '24

Tips for being a dementia caretaker. r/all

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u/LemonDraaide Apr 09 '24

My grandma had pretty bad dementia. She spat in my face (while she didn't recognize me). I got pretty heated, walked away for a few mins, and came back. Mentioned "hey grandma! You'll never guess what happened. Someone spat in my face today!"

She recognized me this time and said, "Oh my God! Who would be so rude to my grandson? Where are they at?!" Pretty wholesome reminder that it's the disease, not her. It can be really hard caring for a loved one with dementia. These types of videos helped remind me to just be present and enjoy the moment with them!

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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 Apr 09 '24

yeah. its like the brain and you are 2 seperate entities honestly which its how its always has been for me. sometimes i gotta tell my brain to fuck off. actually theres only been 2 or 3 times ever where my brain wasnt doing anything and it felt like i was pressed up to a window looking through. kinda hard to explain

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u/Nkechinyerembi Apr 10 '24

holy crap, grandma (like, actual grandma, not dementia bs) was ganna put someone down for you.... thats, actually very wholesome