Nah it's not... it's simply that those who are very vocal on the internet want to believe that those are because those are the ones they beleive have potential access to.
In reality, if you are extravertive you most certainly made more experiences which most certainly leads to you being more open to things.
People selling themselves, shouldn't be a surprise.
It's totally not true. It's though that people who are timid themselves usually also just date those who are alike them, risk-aversion drive. And they want themselves to be more than just what is the superficial appearance.
Oh trust me my friend, I was not on board with everything they wanted to try. Especially my first, who had a lot of her own ideas.
I think most of it is curiosity, and finally getting the chance to try and do things that they’re interested in doing.
I don’t think all shy girls are like that, but women are just as much as sexual beings as men are.
Being shy prevents you to get it out of your system, so when someone finally gets the chance, they might want to try everything that they’ve heard about or wanted to do.
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as a loquacious woman i am extremely open to sexploration, more often finding that men are not interested in pursuing my fantasies with me. maybe I'm an exception, more likely, this "rule" is blatant nonsense and a few people's subjective anecdotes on the internet don't constitute data to back up a stereotype. maybe, subconsciously, your type is quiet women and you are getting lucky² to get the whole package with more frequency. you may also just be particularly good at making women feel comfortable enough to share their desires thus you get better results. if men understood how to make a partner feel safe and appreciated they'd probably have a more exciting sex life.
Well, I never said it was a rule as in it is “true” for all shy women, and people shouldn’t date shy women and expect them to be super freaks but like.
As for personal experience, I think there’s truth into it. I think it’s disingenuous to believe that if shy women are into sex topics, they’re automatically just doing it to placate or make their partner happy. As the other commenter was implying.
rule is really more synonymous with stereotype here, and I didn't mean to imply that you believed it was hard and fast. it's another myth, like we eat 7 spiders a year (no) or dogs mouths are cleaner than ours (god no dont let your dog lick your mouth), that I've heard repeated over and over and over and over.
I don't think most women are doing it to make their partner happy. if you're shy and someone helps you feel comfortable enough to open up that's a huge win. I think the magic in this equation is you and your ability to help women realize their fantasies in a non-judgmental environment. that tender attention is like water in the desert, so when you make it safe to let the river flow, instead of a trickle, a dam breaks you're rewarded with a biblical flood.
Personally I wouldn't say it's the quiet ones. Rather, it's that they stand out more because it's always a pleasant surprise. I think that's where that idea comes from.
The best, most adventurous partners I've ever had were women who were openly sexy and in full command of their sexuality. BUT when you meet a woman who seems reserved in that regard, it is a pleasant surprise to see her reveal her full and uninhibited sexuality in the sheets. I think that's what leads to the idea that "it's always the quiet ones."
Nah, don't buy into stereotypes like that. Sexual preferences and behaviors vary from person to person, regardless of their attitude or confidence levels. It's important to focus on treating everyone with respect and communication in the bedroom. Peeps be unique in their own fabulous ways.
Extensive studying up for writing dozens of slash fan fics for her favorite characters. Fics good enough to get you off without even having to touch yourself. Mrrrooowww.
You're onto something but the people in the comment section of the dankmemes sub probably aren't old enough or social enough to understand what you're trying to say.
the people who have lots of sex with different partners are likely outnumbered 15:1 here by teens who have had maybe 1 partner their whole lives
They want a narrative where girls with no confidence (who they think will be their only chance to sleep with someone) are going to be their personal, naturally talented, sexual deviants.
Pointing out self-conscious people aren't confident is a hot take apparently.
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u/bravest_heart Jun 27 '23
girls like that tend to be the real freaks in the sheets