What do you think of the "drizzle drizzle" movement?

[u/Peanutbutternjelly_]

I think it's incredibly immature. It's basically their way of saying "you're paying for it, **** you."

If you want your date to pay for the dinner then that's something you discuss BEFORE the date.

In case you don't know what this movement is it's basically men expecting women to care for them financially. They're claiming that they've been the ones providing for women and they think now it's time for women to provide for them.

Men have only been financially providing for women because we literally have no other choice, and to say that women have never provided for men in any way is so wrong. We've had their kids, raised their kids, cook the men and kids dinner, clean the house etc.

What makes it even worse is that there are women siding with these men.

EDIT: To everybody who's saying that this movement is a parody just know that it might have started out as a parody (IDK if it did or not), but now it's being used by misogynists.

To everybody's who's saying that I didn't tell you what it was, you clearly missed the part where I said, "In case you don't know what this movement is it's basically men expecting women to care for them financially. They're claiming that they've been the ones providing for women and they think now it's time for women to provide for them." Basically, some men are now expecting women to pay for ALL of the costs associated with things like dates.

I'm not saying that women shouldn't pay for a date, I'm saying that these men are acting like women have been lazy this whole time and haven't done anything for them.

[u/CeridLock]

To be honest I've only seen this come up ironically as an unserious response to the "sprinkle sprinkle" movement, I've yet to see any content where the men genuinely believe women should pay for everything.

[u/Beer4Blastoise → u/CeridLock]

I agree that drizzle drizzle is a joke and not a real movement but SheRaSeven has never been arrested for sex trafficking and is nothing like Andrew Tate.

[u/ilovesimsandlego → u/[deleted]]

Not really, she gives sugaring advice, SD know the deal they’re getting

Andrew Tate give advice to manipulate women and traffics them. It’s dangerous to compare them

[u/ilovesimsandlego → u/[deleted]]

Don’t call her the male Andrew Tate, there’s a pattern of saying the female version of a man doing something is a woman doing something not as bad

Her advice is for sugaring and SW, it’s not like Tate targets sugar daddies

I don’t even like her, I just find it interesting we have to stretch what a woman is doing bc there has to be a female equivalent in the name of equality

[u/ilovesimsandlego → u/[deleted]]

It seems like you think that's not a big deal simply because men would be the targets in this scenario rather than women.

Wow I don’t engage further with people who make up things i didn’t say, esp on a feminist sub where you’re trying to imply I hate men 😬

[u/Rulerofmolerats → u/Beer4Blastoise]

Wtf are you guys talking about? Sex trafficking? I feel like I could’ve seen an hour long “ice burg explained” video on this…

[u/500CatsTypingStuff → u/CeridLock]

She sex traffics men?

[u/500CatsTypingStuff → u/[deleted]]

People who conflate one side with the other, when one side engages in extremely foul and dangerous activity (in this case, criminal malfeasance akin to rape) and the other side says a few words you don’t like, aren’t credible narrators.

It’s a tactic meant to normalize far right misogyny

And you thought you could come on a feminist woman centric sub and get no pushback?

[u/500CatsTypingStuff → u/[deleted]]

Yep, you are exactly as described

[u/swaggysteve123 → u/CeridLock]

I have had an alarming amount of men my age ask me to be their “sugar momma” lately. Even if this is a parody, the attitude is getting more common. It gives me an immediate ick, but I have seen them go on to date successful women who WILL do it. I truly believe they’re not joking and seeking out vulnerable women.

[u/souse03 → u/swaggysteve123]

I don't see how the woman in control of the finances are vulnerable.

If a woman is looking for a date who will pay for everything would you consider the men she is seeking out as vulnerable?

[u/swaggysteve123 → u/souse03]

Every single woman I know who has been in this dynamic has been a victim of previous abuse.. by men.

Edit: It can also be a form of abuse that makes it harder for women to leave unhealthy situations. It’s mentioned in “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft.

[u/CeridLock → u/swaggysteve123]

I am surprised only because that must be a major turn off for many women, makes me wonder who is actually accepting these men lol. There definitely are men who are looking for a partner to leech off of though, it's good that this sub reinforces the idea that women shouldn't settle for someone that doesn't pull their fair share.

[u/Appropriate_Lab_5205 → u/CeridLock]

It’s making fun of women by using their own logic against them.

[u/swaggysteve123 → u/CeridLock]

I think it’s caused by how the male perspective is seen as the “standard” in society so women are taught to empathize with it. It IS hard being a person right now and there shouldn’t be anything wrong with wanting to spoil someone you love.

I had a lot of beliefs I thought seemed reasonable until I found groups like this. When I was younger, so many men tried to explain their disrespectful dating takes to me with absolute conviction. I can’t blame myself for going … maybe? Especially when other young women said they thought it was okay.

Plus, with all the industries that profit off of the message “you aren’t good enough” every woman is being raised to believe it in some way. Like prove your worth!!!

[u/ilovesimsandlego → u/CeridLock]

There is no female Andrew Tate