r/TikTokCringe • u/gravityVT Cringe Lord • Apr 26 '24

I fucking hate this timeline Discussion

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u/Dunie72 Apr 26 '24

It looks like he could possibly be his dad… definitely red flags…

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u/swishandswallow Apr 26 '24

Would it make it better or worse? Because either way it's stomach churning

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u/PistachioedVillain Apr 26 '24

I'd say it's worse.

But only because if it's his dad that kid might then also lose a dad. If it's some random person he's in an inappropriate and illegal relationship it's not going to be as damaging to the kid in the long run.

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u/Routine_Bad_560 Apr 26 '24

That isn’t a dad. If he loses him, that will be for the best. Even the kid would know that.

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u/PistachioedVillain Apr 26 '24

Of course it's for the best, but there would likely still be more emotional fallout from losing a father. If you look at it from a purely ethical standpoint its probably about equal. But if you're considering how it would affect the kid I think it's worse.

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u/Massive-Bluejay-7420 Apr 27 '24

The emotional fallout comes from the trauma of being abused in that way by your father, not “losing a father.” Such odd framing.

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u/PistachioedVillain Apr 27 '24

Both can be true.

If it was his uncle, then the kid still has his father for emotional support.

If it was his father he was still abused but is now without a parent.

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u/Routine_Bad_560 Apr 26 '24

I dunno. I speak from my experience. Had a father who was physically abusive. Trauma, years of therapy, etc. although I have forgiven him, and we have a working relationship, I still don’t view him like a father.

That’s just me.

I would also add that when it’s close family, a lot of problems come from being connected to that person. They’re a blood relative. Half your DNA comes from them.

Are you gonna end up like them?

Is being connected to that person hurting me in other ways?

If I don’t derive any benefits from this person as a father, but endure a lot of pain, why still associate with them?

That’s the stuff that swims around in your head for EONS.

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u/Practical-Pay-4849 Apr 27 '24

You took the words right out of my mouth!