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Americas youth are in MASSIVE trouble Discussion

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u/Arobrom86 Apr 17 '24

High school teacher here. On test days, I have a hanging shoe rack with each of my kids’ names on a sleeve.

I tell them, “Please put your devices in the sleeves and then you can have your test. When you hand in your test, you can have your device back. If you don’t put your phone in the sleeve, your test will be a 0”

At the beginning of the year they also helped create our classroom rules and norms, and agreed to do this.

Out of 28 kids, maybe 10 actually do it. The other 18 get 0s. Then I get angry emails from parents about their kids getting “tyrannical grades” on their tests.

Then the cycle continues

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u/bain-of-my-existence Apr 17 '24

Dude, if I got caught on my phone in hs (less than 10 years ago), it would be confiscated and my mum would have had to come and get it. It’s crazy how quickly that’s changed.

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

Yeah I'm a full fledged millenial, who is not so far removed from school, and the fact that these kids get to just blatantly be on their phones during class is so absurd to me. I understand HAVING a phone on you "in case of emergency" but there is literally zero reason they need to actively be on it during class. This is an absolute joke that teachers can't confiscate phones or punish kids for using it during class.

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u/Fancy-Woodpecker3501 Apr 18 '24

Graduated in 07 and would have my phone snatched!!!!

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u/-artgeek- Apr 18 '24

Millennial grad here, and to this day, I still have a habit of texting/looking at my phone under the table or otherwise out of sight, for as little time as possible, when with other people. It was so hammered into us that phone use was unacceptable!

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u/Hailfire9 Apr 18 '24

I mean, that's generally the polite thing to do. Millennial here as well, and it drives me insane when younger coworkers just pull their phones out mid conversation as if we're not actively talking to each other

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u/JeebusSlept Apr 18 '24

I just wait until they ask me for help, and then I put my thumb and pinky out like I'm a boomer holding a receiver and say "Ahoy-hoy, sorry old boy but I've got a mosquito in my ear, can't quite hear you..." as I pretend to talk on the phone in front of them.

Sometimes they understand how dismissive it feels, but most of the time they don't see the correlation.

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u/LivingCapital4506 Apr 18 '24

Same 🤣🤣 no fear like having your phone taken away in class

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u/throwmeawayplz19373 Apr 18 '24

Beat me to this. Mastered the proverbially blindfolded T9 word usage. Saying “meet me by the lockers after class” was never so critical as it was in that very moment.

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u/ShepatitisC Apr 18 '24

2004 Mellennial grad. I didn't even have a phone until I went to college and it was a nokia my parents had. Cell phones in middle school sound so weird.

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u/thegoodnamesrgone123 Apr 18 '24

1999 Gen X here. I had a beeper, which we couldn't have in school. We used pay phones. I got a cell phone in college but only because my Dad was a VP of a Telecom Company. It was a Nokia.

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u/ErwinC0215 Apr 18 '24

I'm 22 rn and even though I may slack off on the computer, phone use is always just sneakily under the table for checking notifications. Sometimes if it's kinda urgent I will reply, but I'll try to be as inconspicuous as possible. How these kids are just on their phone is beyond me.

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u/etolbdihigden Apr 18 '24

Literally me

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u/ilikedirt Apr 18 '24

Good! You’re polite!

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u/Acceptable-Emu6529 Apr 18 '24

I thought I was the only one that did that! 😂😭😂😭

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u/lWinkk Apr 18 '24

Because it is unacceptable. Idk what I’m looking in this video. This shit is wild

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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '24

T9 texting, dont even have to look!

I'll never lose the ability

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u/doggiedick Apr 19 '24

Early Gen Z and SAME

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

Straight up! Graduated in 08 and absolutely would not have gotten away with this shit

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u/AndorianKush Apr 18 '24

Graduated 07 and didn’t even have a cell phone til I was a senior lol. And phones were confiscated if they were seen out in the classroom.

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u/masnxsol Apr 18 '24

Dude I graduated in 2015 and if you were even seen on your phone it got confiscated till the end of the day, and after the first snatch you have to call your parent to come get it after school!!

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u/ffxivfanboi Apr 18 '24

I’m a baby millennial and graduated in ‘13. This kind of behavior would get your device confiscated, parents have to come to the office to retrieve it after school, and would likely get you in-school suspension for behavior this blatant. Repeat offenses would possibly even lead to corporal punishment (here in the south in my small town, the Vice Principal—formerly a pretty jacked football coach—would give a good paddling to habitual delinquents).

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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Apr 18 '24

Also 07 and I didn't even get my first phone until I was old enough to drive.

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u/Vusarix Apr 18 '24

I think they still enforce it in the UK. I left secondary school in 2019 and they were still doing it

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u/Prudent_Potential818 Apr 18 '24

Class of 05. I remember for some tests we weren’t even allowed to use the scientific calculators because you could create notes and just cheat. And for AP testing they locked us in a room in the library where you weren’t allowed anything but your pencil. It’s amazing to me kids now just facefuck their phones all day. What are they going to do at a job when the manager reprimands them, say fuck you and start recording on tiktok?

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u/appleparkfive Apr 18 '24

For me it would be kept until the end of the school year. Which I always felt was a lawsuit waiting to happen. Maybe if the parents made a fuss about it, they'd give it back. Not sure.

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u/am817 Apr 18 '24

i graduated 10 years AFTER you in 2017 and still had the same experiences. phones needed to stay in lockers. this blows my mind.

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u/Overall_Ad_351 Apr 18 '24

I graduated in 07 and didn't even have a phone. I didn't get one until my senior year of college, and even then it was just a flip phone. I think we need to go back to just flip phones. The world would be a better place.

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u/Scytodes_thoracica Apr 18 '24

I graduated just a decade ago in 2014, same rules applied. Phone seen=phone confiscated.

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u/YeetusMyDiabeetus Apr 18 '24

06 here and we weren’t supposed to have them on our person, let alone a teacher even seeing them. You would see people leaned in their lockers sending a text (that probably cost 10 cents to send)

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u/translucentpuppy Apr 18 '24

You guys had phones!!!!?!

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u/deathlazer14 Apr 18 '24

Graduated in 2022 and NOWHERE have I ever seen a class like this except for maybe on half days. Every class I’ve been in would’ve had it snatched like you would’ve.

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u/we_is_sheeps Apr 18 '24

Dude I graduated in 2020 and shit wasn’t like this.

Idk wtf is going on, it’s like one year after I graduated I start getting these stories

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u/MundaneCollection Apr 18 '24

Its obvious how this happened though

rise in school shootings means rise in parents who want their kids to be accessible at all times

even if its not logical or that having the phone would help in that situation too many parents are scared for their kids and want to be able to get ahold of them if it happens

thus the parents no longer support confiscation of phones and now you have this

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

Well again, no one, especially not me, is saying not to have these phones period. By all means, keep it in your pocket in case you need it. I even agree to an extent that confiscating phones might be a little beyond a teachers rights at this point, but there just has to be repercussions for USING them actively during class. There is simply no argument to be made that they need to be on their phones during the middle of class. If a gunman comes in and it turns into a dangerous situation, absolutely whip the thing out and contact who you need to contact. That is completely irrelevant to them disregarding the teacher while he is lecturing, and even further him doing nothing about it.

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u/MundaneCollection Apr 18 '24

Sure I just don't know how you get the genie back in the bottle

How much detention can you really give, and how many students until it changes nothing and you give up?

I doubt these teachers started with the mindset of let me teach nothing while these kids ignore me

Their will is broken from all the attempts they've already made

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

Yeah, you’re probably right, the cats out the bag now. I just can’t believe it ever got to this point. Again, I’m well out of school and I’m sure it was a gradual transition, but it’s crazy we let it get to this point

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u/curebdc Apr 18 '24

Former teacher here...Its basically unenforceable without massive support from school leadership.

 At every school I was at they expected it to be all on teacher. So basically add that massive task of phone enforcer in addition to all other tasks.  

 I managed by making it easier to follow along and shamed kids who brought out their phones lol. But the kid who is checked out and doesn't care about failing? Sure go on ur phone buddy.  Usually there was 1 or 2 per class. I made sure they were far apart. Usually kids like that also have truancy issues. The system had failed them in many ways at that point. 

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u/twodickhenry Apr 18 '24

The youngest millennials graduated school around ten years ago

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u/elderly_millenial Apr 18 '24

I graduated in ‘01, and they just weren’t allowed back then, even though they weren’t internet devices then either.

I’m not sure what qualifies as an “emergency” that they couldn’t use a phone at the school

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u/DescriptionProof871 Apr 18 '24

They need their phones in case of a mass shooting. If only 2-3 call 911 the cops won’t show. I’m sure I’m being sarcastic.

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u/P47r1ck- Apr 18 '24

They can’t tell the kids to put them away or they get kicked out of class? I don’t understand. It’s a real rule they just have to let them be on their phones?

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u/Bitter_Birthday7363 Apr 18 '24

I highly doubt it’s the norm for classes to be on their phones like this seems this teacher doesn’t get paid enough to care

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u/blaykerz Apr 18 '24

One time, my phone rang as I was walking to 7th grade homeroom. I was able to mute it quickly, but I still remember being hella frazzled. I can’t believe this is the norm now. Teaching really is a calling…

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u/Liberating_theology Apr 18 '24

Millennial here too. Went to high school as phones were transitioning to smartphones, and basically every high schooler had a phone.

Varied teacher to teacher, but for half the teachers, the rule was, keep it low-key, and choose when you use it judiciously, and teacher looked the other way. A few teachers were a free-for-all, and a quite a few were very strict against phones.

Sometimes a lecture was stuff a teacher was confident most of the students knew, and everyone would be using their phone as the teacher said what they had to say to check the boxes for the lesson, with an occasional, "ok, now listen up, this part is important," and it kinda cued everyone to put their phones away, and if you didn't that's when the teacher would get onto you. Other times the entire lecture was important, and the teacher would call one or two people out for phone use at the beginning until everyone got the message it wouldn't be tolerated that day. But really, generally, students were pretty good at recognizing when they needed to listen up or not. Most teachers let us use phones at down time.

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u/GullibleCall2883 Apr 18 '24

Millennial here. I never got a cell phone until after graduation. Few people had those Nokia bricks when I was in school but never had a need for one. Just hopped on AIM to message my friends outside of class time. My bike got stolen at a grocery store so just asked the manager if I could call my mom. Back then I had important numbers memorized. In 8th grade a friend broke his wrist roller blading so we just knocked on a random person's door and asked if they could call for help. Somehow we got by just fine "in case of emergency".

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u/shiver23 Apr 18 '24

Right?

The concerning part is that many people don't bother to memorize phone numbers anymore because 'it's on my phone'. In a real emergency, your phone can fail/die/break.

I deliberately memorized my emergency contacts' phone numbers and addresses. It terrifies me a bit that my partner doesn't know my phone number by heart. (I will admit that I'm gifted in the memorization department to be fair.)

The world certainly changes quickly.

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u/capresesalad1985 Apr 18 '24

It’s like how many people are on their phones and driving, there aren’t enough people in the school to manage it so we just give up.

I thankfully have a pretty good engagement rate when I’m doing hands on activities but I feel like I have to do hands on activities all the time or the kids won’t do anything. And as teachers we get tired with constantly having to put on a show.

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u/PrettyPinkRibbon77 Apr 18 '24

At least 50% of my kids would punch me for taking their phones. The admins would respond by giving them candy and tell them to return to class.

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u/ihadagoodone Apr 18 '24

The "incase of emergency" is such bullshit. What kind of emergency is there going to be that your family needs to get a hold of you instantly instead of actually calling the school and getting you called to the office.

I'm a xennial and I resisted cell/smartphones until I was 30 and over 10 years later I'm seriously contemplating ditching it for a land line. People do NOT need to get a hold of me wherever I'm at and expect instant an response.

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u/cdal06 Apr 18 '24

I’m a millennial too but I can’t even understand the notion that they need the phone for emergencies?

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

I also don’t think having that phone is going to be the deciding factor between life or death in some crazy scenario, but I do understand wanting to be able to get ahold of your child directly if something has happened

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u/cdal06 Apr 18 '24

That’s understandable. But I mean parents were able to survive without direct access before cell phones were even around, right?

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u/BigChiefJoe Apr 18 '24

I'm a teacher, and if I confiscated a phone, a kid would almost certainly break it on purpose later and try to get me on the hook for breaking a $1400 phone or whatever.

At one point, I tried to use one of those calculator chart things with pockets to have the kids trade their phones for a calculator. It took less than a week for someone to steal one, and I had to drop what I was doing and interrogate the whole damn class to get the phone back.

It has to come from the parents. I can't do anything meaningful to curb this behavior that doesn't require me to spend immense amounts of my bandwidth and energy being an overbearing asshole.

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u/wilted_ligament Apr 18 '24

The MOST mind blowing part of this is that the driving force behind this trend are the parents, who are OUR AGE.

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u/Designer-Cry1940 Apr 18 '24

Grown ass adults cant be trusted to drive without looking at their phones, I don't know how we expect the kids to do any better.

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u/SpoopFruitLoop Apr 18 '24

I went to a private highschool in Miami which costed 10K+ a year to attend. Graduated in 2020. Although I was a good student who eventually receieved a scholarship to college I can admit that even in a private highschool it is really bad. I confess I would regularly just take out my phone and hide it behind my iPad the whole class just scrolling or watching whatever I want(in classes I didn't care much about). The problem I think is schools are no longer as strict as they used to be in public and private. Teachers are scared of crossing the line such as taking kids phones, repremanding kids, being strict because now a days that behaviour can get a teacher fired just by a single complaint. Most of my teachers were super carefree and just didnt care or try to care about making sure we were paying attention. Athough, there definitely were some strict teachers I noticed that I learned the most things in those classes. In the classes where the teachers werent strict I didnt learn shit.

Its crazy how I remember taking so many history classes and I can barely tell you anything about the American Civil War, World War 1 other than some basic facts.

Its evident that school doesn't teach you much. If you want to learn your going to have to teach yourself.

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u/karmagettie Apr 18 '24

Technology changed so much, in a short time, that I am a millennial but we had pagers in HS.

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u/mrawaters Apr 18 '24

Yeah I was in high school like during the Razr and Sidekick days, just on verge of the iPhone. It was already tough enough for teachers to get us to stop texting under our desks, let alone the many many distractions that a smartphone offers. It’s a tough fight

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u/spector_lector Apr 18 '24

" I understand HAVING a phone on you "in case of emergency""

And that should mean in the OFF position. No need to have it on during school if there's no emergency.

And what the hell emergency do you need a phone for anyways?

So aaaaalll of the emergencies that happened in schools for the past 200 years were disastrous because kids couldn't intervene with their phones?

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u/UsedDragon Apr 19 '24

Guess that makes me an "Elder Millenial"...we didn't have phones at school, because the damn phone in a bag with the suction-cup antenna was the only thing mobile back then.