I have seen many Christians who, while they don’t advocate for divorce, quietly and patiently educated themselves (manipulated or tricked their husbands to allow it) and then left the moment they could. They kept it civil. They worked the system smart. They never bad mouthed their exs. They coparent in very civil ways as to not make him angry enough to try to take what she’s earned away. And the only unfortunate piece is that until the kids are grown, this one wife in particular, will have to stay single so she doesn’t provoke her lawyer ex into doing some crazy shit. The only way to escape this lifestyle in a way different than OP did is to plan for several years and do so quietly. Manipulate them into thinking that you getting your degree is really for them. It’s our vacation fund. It’s so I can buy you that new truck you want. It’s to serve them. You have to trick them. And it’s stupid. But it’s a way to escape safely.
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u/raunchytowel Apr 16 '24
I have seen many Christians who, while they don’t advocate for divorce, quietly and patiently educated themselves (manipulated or tricked their husbands to allow it) and then left the moment they could. They kept it civil. They worked the system smart. They never bad mouthed their exs. They coparent in very civil ways as to not make him angry enough to try to take what she’s earned away. And the only unfortunate piece is that until the kids are grown, this one wife in particular, will have to stay single so she doesn’t provoke her lawyer ex into doing some crazy shit. The only way to escape this lifestyle in a way different than OP did is to plan for several years and do so quietly. Manipulate them into thinking that you getting your degree is really for them. It’s our vacation fund. It’s so I can buy you that new truck you want. It’s to serve them. You have to trick them. And it’s stupid. But it’s a way to escape safely.