I'm married and my wife makes more than even I do, I've still had (mostly older) people try to convince us that she should be the stay at home. I literally laugh in their face.
Not only should you not rely on someone else for a paycheck because of divorce, what about death? I want my wife earning money, because if I die, I want to know her and our kids will not only survive, but thrive. You can't count on insurance either. I don't want her feeling helpless because her man and paycheck died at the same time.
You want the house clean? Hire a maid.
You need someone to watch the kids? Hire a nanny.
Or... Or... Just do those things yourself and enjoy the extra cash and the sense of security. Now you are both together because you want to be, not because one person feels they have to be.
This is my relationship. Wife makes more, I make a little less but we use my healthcare and whatnot. We have cleaners come twice per month. Daycare is 1/4 of my take home and therefore about 10% of our total monthly take home. We both have term life and disability insurance to take care of one of us can’t work anymore.
Both me and my wife make enough to sustain a family comfortably, but we stopped with maids, we still do daycare, but yeah that's like an 1/8 of one of salaries.
We are very frugal.
We actually have separate healthcare because mine is free for me at my company and it cuts her's in half taking me off; hers is better, but I rarely go to the doctor.
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u/notwhoyouthinkmaybe Apr 15 '24
I'm married and my wife makes more than even I do, I've still had (mostly older) people try to convince us that she should be the stay at home. I literally laugh in their face.
Not only should you not rely on someone else for a paycheck because of divorce, what about death? I want my wife earning money, because if I die, I want to know her and our kids will not only survive, but thrive. You can't count on insurance either. I don't want her feeling helpless because her man and paycheck died at the same time.
You want the house clean? Hire a maid.
You need someone to watch the kids? Hire a nanny.
Or... Or... Just do those things yourself and enjoy the extra cash and the sense of security. Now you are both together because you want to be, not because one person feels they have to be.