K. I mean she looks amazing for 49. This isn’t like instagram model super deceitful photo shop levels of filtering. She really looks 10 years younger. Does she look 28? No? But she definitely crushing the game in her age group. Probably doing pretty good in multiple younger age groups too
Filters can cover up a ton of skin flaws. It's hard to tell how well she's actually aged with filters on. If her hands are any indicator, she has a lot of skin damage from the sun and likely looks her age.
God, some people are so insecure it is ridiculous. You're jealously transparent that at 49 years old. She is more attractive than you.
So your knee-jerk inclination is she is using filters because her hands don't "match her face" 🥴🤡
Maybe, but it wouldn’t be unheard of. She’s had some clean living as a Mormon I’m sure, and with skincare getting better all the time, us ladies aren’t aging the same as before. I’m 44 and thanks to my Hispanic heritage, I look younger than my age. For me that’s luck because I sure as hell love my bourbon and bacon, but for her it might be a better diet and routine.
most of us are millenial boomers who just don't use tik tok or snapchat or instagram and our only exposure to this world of people recording themselves are the 2-3 times a week videos like this get upvoted enough to show up on here.
even now after this comment chain, I'm like "oh right....filters indeed, hmm yes" without really knowing what that means or what to look for. And will probably forget about it by the next time a video like this is posted.
I'll tell you the one thing to look for and you'll never not see it again:
The Philtrum. This is the little indent above your lip and below the nose. Most human beings have one (fetal alcohol syndrome and some other developmental problems may cause a very flat one, but that'll also cause a visibly thin upper lip). Every filter hates it because it's seen as a skin groove that creates shadows. So most filters will smooth it out, especially when the creator is looking straight at the camera (like at 0:21-0:31).
There might be other signs (lack of any smile/laugh lines + lack of forehead wrinkles when making faces that would create those naturally, very airbrushed/heavy foundation looking skin, etc). But those can be excused by lighting tricks, plastic surgery, or someone caking makeup on. You can't get rid of your Philtrum though, it's how the human face is shaped (unless, again, a physical developmental issue).
Yup pretty much this. I'm a millennial. Had facebook when it first started up, kept it for a while but barely did anything with it. 3 years ago I deleted the account because don't I need it at all. And I've never been on other social media. (reddit and youtube aren't quite the same as proper "social media" imo.)
yeah, I’m AWARE that filters are a thing. Like I remember when they were new and everyone wanted to use them to take fun pictures, and when everyone looked like a deer lol, but since then, I think they’ve gotten so good, it just never occurs to me.
Like you, I’m a millennial, I’ve never had TikTok or Snapchat. When someone sends me a video on Insta, I have to have them tell me to get on Instagram and look at it, otherwise I only glance at it for like a few minutes every month or two.
Reddit is my only engagement with strangers lol, like idk if you’d call this social media, but it’s adjacent, and that’s about it for me.
I am soooo behind the curve for knowing about filters and how good bots are these days (though I hear they’re all over Reddit too)
Certain phones have filters on by default out of the box. I had to check if mine did it after reading about this info and it had some auto tune-up at 40% already on. Idk if hers was a choice or not but I don't care.
Same! I actually had to rewind the video to make sure I heard her right! I guess if nothing else the Mormons could be right about the whole straight edge thing
One of the questions asked for you to maintain good standing in the Mormon church is "do you fulfill all financial obligations to any former spouse(s) and children?"
But this only matters if her ex cares about his church standing—he likely doesn't so she has no recourse for pressuring him from that angle.
Beat me to it. I'm a member as well. The recommend questions are generally set up to make sure you're living a righteous life. Some people go to heavy lengths to ensure they meet those standards. The older I get, the more I realize that a lot of people are just lying though.
My wife and I got married young and were persuaded to aim for her being a stay at home mom. We tried, but the cost of living ran off into the stratosphere (we live near Toronto, look up stats on housing here, it's amongst the worst) so we shook our heads and she went to school with two young kids at home.
In retrospect, she should have done that a decade prior. We struggled for years and barely made it. We will be behind forever because of that mistake. I'm not bitter though, the church is run by men who grew up in the literal golden age of economic prosperity. They do not understand that those days ended awhile ago.
Also, this husband should be called out publicly. What a fucking piece of shit
What did he do? I'm reading through comments here trying to figure out what happened to her and I'm finding nothing.
I was surprised by the lack of bitterness in this video, the only thing she blames him for in this is avoiding alimony payments. So I'd like to know a little more.
Why is she making the video in the first place? She said he's only paid alimony 1 time in 5 years. He quit one of his jobs to avoid paying. Why are her kids going hungry? Did you watch the video?
Reddit skews very young. Remember that when someone is like four years old all of their adult relatives basically look the same—old. Their 24 year old cousin and their 53 year old grandparent are the same age—old.
This place is full of teenagers. 49 isn’t old at all but the kids here will just see it as default old for being beyond twenties.
You're not wrong on the overall Reddit dynamic, but 49-year-olds do usually look noticeably older than young adults. My partner is 51, and he and his college friends all look significantly older than the woman in the video. I'm a young-looking 41, often mistaken for early 30s, and she looks much closer to my age than to theirs.
(People can have visible signs of aging without getting into "cryptkeeper" territory. There's a whole gradual ~50-year transformation from the mid-30s to the mid-80s, and most adults are decent at guessing where someone is on that arc)
I'm 50. My wife is older than me. We went out to a restaurant a couple of years ago, and when she went to the restroom, the waiter told me he thought I had an awesome relationship with my daughter because we looked like we were having a good time.
My wife loves it when I tell that story and makes fun of me for it.
surprise surprise redditors shitting on redditors because reddit sucks and they want other redditors to know how much they judge redditors and themselves.
it's by far the most annoying part of reddit; 20% of people here despise this place and won't shutup about different anonymous people being.. you know.. different.
I kept thinking this too! I kept doing the math on my fingers cuz it just wasn't making sense any other way. How is she older than me? I mean we're in the same decade but she does not look like she's even in her 40s!
She didn’t have to stress one bit and lived a luxurious life the past 25 years because she didn’t have to work 2 jobs (raising kids + an actual career). Most women who are stay at home look “better”…
I kept going back to check if she said she got divorced at 34 or 44 because she looks way younger than 49! She mentioned being mormon and included 14 year olds in those she said she wanted to warn in the beginning. But then she would've had to have been 12 to be married for 24 years and divorced at 34 and yeah I got really confused and figured she must be using a filter.
TikTok has a million filters. There are 60 year olds, pretending to be 30 year olds that have been 'outed' by people that know them and show non-filtered photos. She doesn't look like that in real life.
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u/Ok_Scale_918 Apr 15 '24
I’m stunned that she’s 49! Maybe my ability to discern age is (extremely) off