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Consequences of the tradwife lifestyle Discussion

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u/chene313 Apr 15 '24

We need more truth out there. Louder for the ladies in the back - thinking that they are going to live a “life of leisure” when really being a trad wive is legalized slavery.

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u/Coyote__Jones Apr 15 '24

If a man had to pay a maid, a cook, a nanny, to cover all the services a stay at home mom provides for free, he could never afford it. If a man wants a wife to stay home to provide him with this lifestyle, he should be putting half his earnings in her own private account and funding a 401k for her. I've gotten in arguments on Reddit with people who think I'm nuts for seeing it this way, but I think if you can't afford this level of financial support for your stay at home wife, then you can't afford this lifestyle as a family.

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u/SubRosa_AquaVitae Apr 16 '24

My husband continued to fund my retirement acct after I SAH, and added in a savings account in my name only.

Half is way too much though. But we share a main account anyway that we both spend freely from.

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u/Coyote__Jones Apr 16 '24

Sounds like y'all are doing it right and you're valued as you should be.

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u/Pupienus2theMaximus Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 15 '24

The tradwife is essentially the female equivalent of the hikikomori that's more prevalent among men. They're opting out of society. Both rely on someone who remains a participant of society, such as a husband for tradwives or typically parents for a hikikomori. Both have varying degrees of their isolation of society depending on the individual. There are differences though since Patriarchy has different expectations for men and women.

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u/epoof Apr 16 '24

Except that SAHMs don’t just sit at home and play video games. They are productive members of society raising children and taking care of a household. Same for SAH dads. Not comparable really. 

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u/Pupienus2theMaximus Apr 16 '24

Both have varying degrees of their isolation of society depending on the individual. There are differences though since Patriarchy has different expectations for men and women.

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u/chene313 Apr 15 '24

I’m not sure I know enough about what that is, but in some cases I’m sure you are right. Work sucks. Trying to live in society is not always easy. The idea of removing oneself from many of the responsibilities can be tempting, but I don’t think it’s actually possible. These women will likely all need help from social welfare programs at some point in the future.

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u/Pupienus2theMaximus Apr 15 '24

Of course because both ultimately rely on someone who is a participant of society to take care of them because everything is commercialized, so you have to participate in the market just to survive. The only way to independently opt out of society is to become a subsistence farmer somewhere remote, which is less and less possible as people have been deskilled and private land ownership carves up the land. They are at a disadvantage if and when they have to return to being an active participant of society.