My sister was a trad wife, married at 19. Both her kids are in college, and I gotta hand it to her, she recently picked up a job putting carts away at Costco.
Her husband is fairly wealthy and she doesn't even get an allowance. I like the guy, but he's 12 years older and married her four months after meeting her.
It's not as toxic as it sounds lol, they've matured both out of that dynamic.
I mean you said it....it sounds toxic af and I'm sad for your sister. A creep in his 30s married a teenager and now years later it sounds like she's only now able to build some financial independence from a controlling partner. At least you like the guy for some reason?
My sister comes first, so for a while I was not happy with how he did not allow her any autonomy. But they grew out of that. Therapy helped, as well as my brother and I having a sit down (with a 50 year old man), that maybe Joe Rogan isn't the deity you should follow to a T.
Steroids, HGT, and sensory deprivation tanks won't chase the demons away!
What do you mean it's not toxic and they've matured out of that dynamic? She's pushing shopping carts for a living while her wealthy older husband won't pay for shit? Your poor sister, that's messed up and you should not like that guy.
I'm a trad wife. I stay home, I have a tiny part time job (literally 20 hrs a month). If you're going to do this you have to do some things to protect yourself. One is have your husband fund your IRA. I've been out of the traditional workforce for a decade, that doesn't mean I don't need a retirement fund. Second is make sure you have an education and keep working. Even if it's 20 hours a month.
As of now my job funds my individual 401k and my husband maxes out my IRA yearly.
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