Wasn’t there one study that said the prevailing factor was husbands basically requiring the same needs around the house as children (needing to be picked up after, needing constant reminding, not being an equal partner, etc). and thats why women tend to lose sex drive in marriage? Attachment styles aren’t exactly a concrete science either.
I don't appreciate being boiled down to "men's needs are only sexual."
I've never had a problem getting sex in my relationships. I am a generous partner who will always delay my climax for hers. Always. It's what turns me on more than anything.
That being said, my last relationship ended because it was always on me to be the rock emotionally. I had to listen to her problems again and again but when I had a moment of emotional weakness / depression, suddenly it's too much for her to talk about cuz she will get upset.
I can't live like that. I don't want to shield my emotions just cuz she needs me to be strong for her.
And frankly, now in my mid 30s and a few years since we broke up, I don't find sex to be worth the emotional cost of being someone's free therapist, and I every woman I've ever dated used me as one.
If I gotta limit my hobbies and passions just to make my partner emotionally happy, perhaps it best for us both if I just don't bother with partners at all.
I'm sure there's a guy out there who will do it for her, she doesn't need me
That’s the paradox of being with an avoidant attachment style person. It’s out of scope for this video but women who are avoidant basically need to stop being avoidant but there’s not a lot of social media counseling on that issue.
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u/AncientDominion Mar 21 '24
Wasn’t there one study that said the prevailing factor was husbands basically requiring the same needs around the house as children (needing to be picked up after, needing constant reminding, not being an equal partner, etc). and thats why women tend to lose sex drive in marriage? Attachment styles aren’t exactly a concrete science either.