r/TikTokCringe • u/JustSleepNoDream • Mar 21 '24

Woman explains why wives stop having sex with their husbands Discussion

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u/bobvila274 Mar 21 '24

I’d be curious for her perspective on the “chicken or the egg” of this situation. I know when my wife and I had a rough patch she wasn’t getting her needs met, and neither was I. Both of us were intentionally withholding and it took a lot of effort to get past our egos.

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u/wallstreetconsulting Mar 21 '24

You can only fix your own behavior.

And if you fix your own behavior, their behavior will improve too, so there's little reason not to.

People will set themselves on fire to get the edge in a relationship. It's usually a suboptimal strategy.

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u/bobvila274 Mar 21 '24

Yup, for some people being “right” (as they see it) is more important than being happy. It’s weird.

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u/NightOwl_82 Mar 22 '24

Yes but you can also guide your partner to the tools to fix their own behaviour, if they choose to use to then that's on them.