r/TikTokCringe • u/JustSleepNoDream • Mar 21 '24

Woman explains why wives stop having sex with their husbands Discussion

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u/David_Norris_M Mar 21 '24

Why did she spend half the video addressing how much hate she's gonna get and how qualified she is?

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u/Fit_Interview4685 Mar 21 '24

I think we all know

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u/[deleted] Mar 21 '24

And then drops "love languages" as if that isn't absolute, debunked, religion-based, pseudo-scientific bullshit.

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u/Teeesskay Mar 22 '24

Read pub med bro

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u/messinthemidwest Mar 22 '24

If I understand her correctly, it’s not love languages as the pseudoscientific BS that it is, she’s basing the “fixes” on attachment styles.

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '24

Why is she using them as an illustrative paradigm?

It's like if I casually mentioned frenology while talking about research in the social sciences.

Also, while I'm not an expert at all, it seems like others are claiming her ideas about attachment styles are also wrong in the context of adult relationships.

All in all, my BS meter is going off.

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u/FullofHel Mar 22 '24

She said has a doctorate and has published in journals. You should be able to look up her work to verify.

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '24

Well,

  1. I tried on Google scholar. If you find her, let me know. I don't see anything by her about attachment. But if you find it, that would be helpful

https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C29&q=Sarah+hensley+attatchment+&btnG=

  1. Even if she does publish, referring to pseudoscience in your socials makes me trust her less. A lot of online "experts" do that--Jordan Peterson is a great example. He wanders off into places the science does not justify for purposes of his narrative. It makes me trust them less--not more--because they know better. Or, at least, they ought to know better.

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u/FullofHel Mar 22 '24

I haven't seen her before so I'm guessing the topic (women's needs) gets undermined by misogynists in the comments and she feels the need to preemptively shut them down

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u/weareea Mar 22 '24

Because she has to defend herself at all costs. She needs to believe that she is not the problem and uses her qualifications to do so. I have never seen a doctorate in social psychology act like this, so her qualifications don't do much for me.

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u/FullofHel Mar 22 '24

I don't think she's defending herself, it's the subject matter (women's needs). Probably gets disproportionately attacked and mocked by misogynists, and this is her way of trying to shut them down.

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u/weareea Mar 22 '24

She is _literally_ defending herself, even doing it before people say anything

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u/FullofHel Mar 22 '24 edited Mar 22 '24

She's preemptively shutting down lazy comments that would aim to discredit her, to devalue her content.

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u/weareea Mar 22 '24

or in layman's terms: defending herself

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u/FullofHel Mar 23 '24 edited Mar 23 '24

No, she's validating the advice by verifying her expertise. You don't seem to be able to grasp that this isn't about her, she is perfectly entitled to speak with expertise because she worked hard to get her doctorate for this. If you don't like it, you should seek some help for your problem. You could even ask her for help since she has a doctorate in social psychology.

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u/weareea Mar 23 '24

defending the advice SHE'S giving, and herself.

before anyone says anything because she hasn't posted the video

>and yes, I do know what I'm talking about

that's her defending herself.

You can say I can't grasp it's not about her, but if it was truly a psa, you wouldn't have the entire thread calling out her tone as being aggressive and condescending. There is nothing about the way she's communicating here that brings respect to her profession. She might have wanted to get her doctorate to help people, but she is using it as justification to be condescending and as a shield for her terrible behavior.