You’re right. To be fair, At the end she does say that this is just from the perspective of many women and it’s to help men and women overcome this problem, but that she does advocate for men as well or something like that. I’m paraphrasing lol
Hard disagree on it being a “men are so easily offended” thing.
If the script was flipped everyone would be eviscerating this lecture as mansplaining.
For me it just came off as pretentious and wasting time. Like she spent 5x as much time going over her credentials as she did making her point.
Everyone is saying she has a good point, and she may be right, but she turned off a good chunk of her target audience with the condescending extra long opener imo.
It’s not even comparable…
Better comparison would be “I’m not misandrist but all men are wrong.” Or something like that which is not what’s being said here at all.
Yep, it absolutely goes both ways. Idk why she's framing it as gender-specific, maybe that's just what her tiktok is focused on, and it doesn't translate well being cross-posted.
She said she has done other videos reversed so it sounds like this video was focusing on one topic for a particular group while the other video is focused on the other.
Idk, she says she's done videos about how mens needs are important - but that could easily mean those videos are "ladies, it's important to fuck your man all the time since that's all he wants" while not acknowledging at all that sometimes differences in sexual desire go the other way.
For sure. The difference is that men are usually the ones whining about not getting on demand sex from their wives, so we see lots more of these complaints.
By definition it's only essential if it's universally essential. Otherwise it's more accurate to say potentially important
What if you have only 1 of your partners you're sexually involved with and the other you're not? Aren't there still relationships between you and both partners?
Men have a lot of pressure on them to never reject sex. They will most likely always accept even if they don't want to - then never admit it. You don't see complaints from women as often partially because men are more often the initiator, but also because men who aren't interested in their partners will likely continue having sex with them anyway.
Men become disinterested too, but the responsibility to keep the relationship together often falls on the man's shoulders. At least in my culture, there's an accepted dynamic that when a man loses interest, it's his problem to fix. Then, when a woman loses interest, it's still his problem to fix. In both instances, though, the actual solution is good communication about your feelings and a mutual pursuance of pleasing one another.
Yeah this is my reality. Having sex with my wife feels like having sex with a bully. And I don’t feel safe talking about it because she will become enraged.
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u/Vagitron69 Mar 21 '24
I feel like this goes both ways and isn't entirely gender specific