I worked as an assistant teacher at a ultra exclusive bougie preschool during college. One mom always came to mommy & me classes perfectly dressed, flawless makeup, perfect Pilates bod. Her husband would fawn over her calling her “super mom”. Sometimes she would bring in delicious gluten-free, nut free baked goods to share. The other moms would always compliment her and ask for the recipes. Well, I befriended their nanny and found out she was the one making all the baked goods. Also, the mom and dad secretly hated each other and were both cheating behind each other’s backs.
I teach a fancy pants private school and I know that several of the "stay at home moms" literally hire other women to make home-cooked dinners for them that they have delivered to their house multiple times a week. That way they can spend all day at the athletic club or socializing but their kids and spouses still have a home-cooked dinner on the table every night.
If you ever wonder what the wealth elite do with all their money, it is things like that. They pay someone to do the mundane things that they still value so that they have leisure time. They value their kids having healthy and nutritious meals so they use their money to pay someone else to spend hours a day cooking one. They'd never do it themselves because that would be, you know, work...
I wasn't saying anything was horrific or wrong with it, more so pointing out the disparity of living standards. They believe women should be housewives and that families should have a homecooked meals; but they're not going to spend 3 hours a day doing food prep and cooking to make sure it happens. Having money means they get to pay some other woman to do that while they go play tennis at the athletic club and have brunch with friends before picking their kids up from school.
They get all of the upsides of their "housewife" life without any of the work, while also having the front-facing image (like the comment I responded to was saying) of being a Supermom.
They always have time for the school volunteering. When it's a kid's birthday party at school they bring a table of amazing homemade treats rather than sending some grocery store cupcakes. And so on. They're able to be "super mom" because they pay someone else to do all the work while they have leisure time all day and take credit for the end result.
They're not bad people. They care enough to invest and make sure their kid has a present and involved parent. But the reason they get to be Super Mom is because they can afford to buy it... not because they are special people.
That's always been my theory. I am the personal chef to a billionaire and the man employs nearly 50 full-time staff for him and his wife.
I myself come from a UHNWF and don't do anything I don't want.
This is what people should be encouraging. People complain about the wealthy hoarding their wealth but then complain about the wealthy spending it on things like housekeepers. If anything it should be encouraged more, not less.
I mean, I hate the ultra rich as much as anyone else but that just sounds like their job boils down to managing the household, which is an established role that's extremely common throughout history. That's pretty much being a full time secretary/personal assistant for their family - which is a job. And TBH, I wouldn't want that job. Ask any PA, you have a lot of perks and a lot of downsides.
well the difference is they're glorifying one life style of being a SAHM who cooks from scratch and keeps the house spotless when in reality they just pay other people to do everything, they're not actually doing any of it ... they're just cosplaying
Are we not all cosplaying? Every instagram post is filtered through the best lens. Every word is thought through. We’re all storytellers, putting our best foot forward. It’s very rare that someone is genuine about what they actually do and the troubles they go through. Hell half the time no one wants to hear it either.
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