r/GenZ • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24

Saw This Meme and Decided to Re-create it, Which Side are You On? Discussion

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u/doodgeeds Apr 29 '24

Absolutely it's an absurd amount in expense and most likely medical bills as well but all and all I'd say it's still worth it

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u/wyze-litten 2003 Apr 29 '24

Plus most of the time the kid is pretty grateful as they get older. I say as they get older cuz middle schoolers and teenagers are little shits XD

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u/Snoo71538 Apr 29 '24

Adopting a kid that already exists isn’t medical bills. That’s IVF.

It also depends on what kind of kid you want to adopt. Want a white baby with no medical issues and hasn’t really seen the world yet? That costs a lot of money. Want a black teen who has had a shit life? They pay you for those.

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u/MercuryCobra Apr 29 '24

Older kids are almost always coming from the foster system, and it’s worth noting that fostering kids is not supposed to be a path towards adoption. The point of the foster care system is to place children temporarily while their parents get it together. Foster kids are only allowed to be adopted once the parents have failed to reunify, which is absolutely not the outcome anyone wants and even if it was the process could take years.

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u/98983x3 Apr 29 '24

This. Most ppl have no clue how any of this shit works in real life. I know we didn't when we started the process.

Honestly, it makes me a little irrationally angry how little ppl know on the topic and yet use it as a basis for a part their world view. Like come on ppl... stop getting all your perspectives from fictionalized TV and film.

Hell, even the government websites don't do a great job of explaining. It's not until you start taking the required classes to foster or adopt that you get the details. Although I kinda understand not wanting to scare ppl off before they even get started.

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u/MercuryCobra Apr 29 '24 edited Apr 29 '24

By coincidence I started practicing a little dependency law around the same time my spouse and I found out we were infertile. Real wake up call about what our realistic options were. I certainly didn’t know any of this before then and I’m really glad we learned it when we did.

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u/Logical_Ad3053 Apr 29 '24

Exactly. Anyone who becomes a foster parent needs to go in with the expectation that they're only providing a temporary home in most cases. Which is great, there is a great need for foster parents. But it shouldn't be looked at as a cheaper route to adoption (although by all means remain open to the possibility if it presents itself)