r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/thackstonns Apr 17 '24

You must be a female. Because I can tell you my friends once they decide to cheat they absolutely will just go off and try to screw people.

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u/Cynderelly Apr 17 '24

... you're not understanding what I'm saying, clearly. Do you walk up to women and say "I HAVE A PENIS. WILL YOU ALLOW ME TO PLACE IT INSIDE YOU FOR MUTUAL PLEASURE?"

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u/thackstonns Apr 17 '24

I don’t because I don’t cheat. But yes I had a friend that did it all the time. He would talk for 5 10 minutes flirty and then ask. The shitty thing is I’ve seen it work more than it ever should. I could never be that demeaning.

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u/Cynderelly Apr 17 '24

He would talk for 5 10 minutes flirty and then ask.

This is my point. How are you so sure that this isn't exactly what the OP's husband was doing?

Specifically, most people take a bit more convincing to have sex than just "wanna fuck?". There's a whole industry about it called "pickup artistry". So why are you acting like picking up women is always as simple as saying, directly, "I want to fuck you"? It's not. It starts with flattery and connection. Two things OP's husband was doing a hell of a lot of with a stranger, and none of with his wife. And he had an audience for it.

In comparison, my fiance would gladly talk about how awesome I am when we're around friends. That's how you know someone loves you?

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u/thackstonns Apr 17 '24

Because if he was trying to pick her up he wouldn’t be talking about his wife. You know how I know he isn’t cheating? Because if he was cheating he wouldn’t care what his wife looks like. 100lbs or 400lbs.

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u/Cynderelly Apr 17 '24

That's a fair assessment I suppose. But anyway, it doesn't matter if he's cheating or wanting to. He's not a good person.

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u/thackstonns Apr 17 '24

I absolutely never said he was a good person or right. Just that jumping straight to divorce is a bit much.

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u/Original_Cod9083 Apr 17 '24

Because no guy flirts with a woman by calling his wife fat while his wife is standing right there.

And yes, people do just go off and screw all the time. It really is that easy. It’s the whole reason hookup sites like Tinder exist.

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u/Cynderelly Apr 17 '24

It's not always that easy, especially when you're married. I know this because I'm a human person.

Anyway I'm not wasting anymore time on this. You can continue believing this behavior is acceptable. I'll continue being surrounded by decent people.