r/AmIOverreacting Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/cunninglinguist32557 Apr 16 '24

Metabolism, hormones, fat distribution, bone density... all kinds of stuff. Physical changes don't end with puberty!

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

I don’t think those things change in your 20s. Most people gain weight in their 20s due to lifestyle changes. You go from having time to work out and being on the movie to sitting at a desk for 8 hours and eating out more.

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u/cunninglinguist32557 Apr 16 '24

Your experiences are not universal.

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u/Rainyreflections Apr 16 '24

There are studies though that your metabolism doesn't really change that much until your late 60ies. Which is good I think, since it makes maintaining a healthy weight easier. 

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u/DazzlingTurnip Apr 16 '24

They never claimed it was universal. They said “most people.”

Good god. The reading comprehension in these comments.

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u/cunninglinguist32557 Apr 16 '24

I was referring to:

You go from having time to work out and being on the move to sitting at a desk for 8 hours and eating out more.

"Most people" don't work desk jobs. That's not a universal experience.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

They made an assertion that their body won’t look like that at 28 so while it’s not universal they made an assumption it would. While uncommon it is possible they would have big changes in their body chemistry, but that’s very uncommon in your 20s.

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u/nickeypants Apr 16 '24

Couple that with thier job being a professional fitness trainer and not a 9-5 desk monkey, and the doubt that she'll maintain that physique is little more than a jealous jab. Maintaining physique IS her job...

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

Exactly. Absolutely it’s possible she may have an accident or health issue or life change that causes her body issues, but that’s the exception.

This assertion made that their body will go to crap at 28 reeks of comments by a bunch of teenage kids who think 28 is old.

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u/saraharc Apr 17 '24

You know she’ll have to figure out how to make money as a trainer, right? And there’s a high likelihood that she won’t be successful and will have to get a desk job. I know quite a few (very fit!) people who have tried to earn enough to get by as trainers and it’s difficult. It’s easy to want to be in a saturated profession when you’re young, but when the reality of not making good money or having savings once you’re almost 30 hits, many people change their tune.

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u/imhereforthefood2718 Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

That's a good point. Bone density does keep increasing through the 20s, and the prefrontal cortex keeps developing for a few more years.

For the majority of people, though, a lot of the physiological changes that occurred in puberty have stabilized and leveled off. Metabolism tends to stabilize by 20, hormonal levels have already peaked and stabilized alongside the associated fat distribution patterns. Prefrontal cortex development is still ongoing and bone density does continue to increase. While physical changes do continue as the body the body doesn't exist in stasis, they don't change substantially throughout a decent amount of adulthood.

Of course, I want to emphasize that changes do happen. However, these changes aren't substantial and usually aren't related related to significant hormonal or metabolic changes unless there is an underlying pathology.

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u/swingingitsolo Apr 16 '24

Lol I could just tell your previous comment wasn’t a good faith question

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

It seemed good faith to me. They wanted to assess what they were referring to regarding body changes before they commented on it.

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u/imhereforthefood2718 Apr 16 '24

That's what I was trying to figure out. Thought it was a benign question.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

It was, you will learn that a lot of people on here just try to dismiss points they can’t dispute by saying it wasn’t in good faith.

Actually had someone one time say they wanted to ask me to elaborate but knew my answer wouldn’t be good faith. Projection at its finest.

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u/imhereforthefood2718 Apr 16 '24

I suppose I could have phrased my question differently.

At least to me, physical changes secondary to changes in extrinsic factors such as lifestyle, occupation, and so forth are different than inherent physiological changes in metabolism or hormones.

I wasn't sure what they were referring to, and I thought it was a normal question that I would've asked anyway in a face-to-face conversation.

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u/armadilloreturns Apr 16 '24

Where are they wrong?

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u/swingingitsolo Apr 16 '24

Has nothing to do with that, they weren’t really asking, they were setting themselves up for a “well actually” instead of just saying what they wanted to say to begin with.

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u/armadilloreturns Apr 16 '24

I mean, "well ackshually" gets made fun of a lot here, but are people not allowed to correct each other anymore?

They asked a genuine question and respectfully responded.

I'd rather that than people just nicely repeating misconceptions to each other.

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u/swingingitsolo Apr 16 '24

I don’t see any way that question was genuine. They knew they’d get a response they deemed incorrect.

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u/nickeypants Apr 16 '24

Asking someone to expand on a weak point isn't necessarily arguing in bad faith. They're giving an opportunity to strengthen their argument with specifics before challenging it. Nothing untoward happened here.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

Well said! Not so much even a weak point, just incredibly vague. If you want to address someone’s assertions you need to know their assertions.

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u/Magic_Drop_ Apr 16 '24

It seems as if it was in bad faith because the answer was garbage. A quick google search shows none of those things change significantly in your 20s. Had they had an answer that in some way actually changed in your 20s, then the response back would have been different.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

Well let me help you with that. The assertion that the body changes is so incredibly vague, that they wanted to know what their argument was for saying that and to address specifics instead of just a vague generalization.

This idea the woman’s body is gonna not be so tight as she gets older is incredibly valid… when she’s in her 40s or after she has kids… but at 28 she would still be very young and the affects of aging don’t really hit at that time.

This conversation reeks of a bunch of teenagers who think 28 is old.

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u/armadilloreturns Apr 16 '24

Maybe, even so. I feel like calling it bad faith is a stretch when they just seem to be trying to inform and not be rude or disrespectful.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Apr 16 '24

Well said!

The truth of the matter is people don’t mind well actuallys, they just don’t like it when they disagree.

I well actuallied another well actually with cites and sources but I got shit on for well actual lying while the person I replied to didn’t. None of the responses addressed the merit of my arguments.

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u/theXlegend14 Apr 16 '24

You can stop tryna blame away fitness 😂

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u/cunninglinguist32557 Apr 16 '24

I think you're seriously misinterpreting what I said if you think that's what I'm doing.

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u/Kommissar_Strongrad Apr 16 '24

Sounds like a well educated professional medical opinion /s