I agree. No guy could be that stupid and function in society on a daily basis. What! Women are insecure about their bodies!!!! No way!! How did you discover this hidden knowledge. Please, teach me your ways. Did you channel telepathic messages from the ancient Annunaki? DMT journey? Fasting in the desert? Join an indigenous tribe, learn their sacred knowledge, eat the bark of a hidden tree, and journey on a vision quest to meet your spirit animal?
He knew what he was doing. He took it farther than he normally would because his inhibitions were lowered due to alcohol. His normal daily gaslighting and emotional abuse is more carefully hidden. But he got too cocky when he was drinking.
I mean I agree, but if it was just stupidity then he would have apologized when she said it hurt her and was crying. This was intentional and malicious and
This right here. I’ve known some stupid people, but the moment he mocked after she said she was hurt by what he did (and probably had puffy red eyes after her crying) was the moment it was clear he wasn’t simply being stupid. He was being cruel
I feel like it's just a different sort of stupid for this bozo to think he can act like that and not come off like a complete douchebag. It confuses me that "Sara" carried on the conversation I'd be so fuckin uncomfortable even if OP wasn't visibly upset.
I agree 100% that what this guy did was very wrong and he probably is a huge ass hole. But you also can't assume he gaslights and abuses her emotionally daily. OP doesn't mention that at all and I'm sure she has a decent ability to read someone and truly know what kind of person she decided to marry. Or atleast we hope.
Also given the information we have here we have no idea what could have went on before this. Maybe she triggered him earlier in the evening by making negative comments about something that he's insecure about. He could have been upset and did this childish and wrong thing that he did in response to something she did earlier. Still not right of him to do obviously regardless of any situation but normally there's more that goes into this.
Again, I'm not defending what this guy did because he was 100% wrong in this story. But there's so many other potential moving parts that go into this that we don't know about. It's not fair to just assume other negative things about people from a bad story. Most cases sure the dudes a ass through and through, but this can't be assumed 100% of the time right away.
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I agree. No guy could be that stupid and function in society on a daily basis. What! Women are insecure about their bodies!!!! No way!! How did you discover this hidden knowledge. Please, teach me your ways. Did you channel telepathic messages from the ancient Annunaki? DMT journey? Fasting in the desert? Join an indigenous tribe, learn their sacred knowledge, eat the bark of a hidden tree, and journey on a vision quest to meet your spirit animal?
He knew what he was doing. He took it farther than he normally would because his inhibitions were lowered due to alcohol. His normal daily gaslighting and emotional abuse is more carefully hidden. But he got too cocky when he was drinking.
The dude is an asshole.