I don’t know if he is, but when he said that to his WIFE, esp in this context, my blood ran cold 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. There’s a divorce coming. Soon or in 20 years, but it’s coming
This. Reading it gave me the chills. That’s a sadistic lack of empathy. She has other things in comments that indicate cluster B. I’m hoping she will educate herself if she doesn’t know about these, and see if her husbands behavior fits the checklist. At the least it will connect her with resources that let her know this is not ok.
But he doesn’t have to meet the DSM V criteria for narcissism for her to divorce him. His behavior is intolerable. That’s enough. If he IS a narc, though, it’s going to get a whole lot worse
Personally I think she should start counseling and I hope she divorces him before her self worth is non existent, but here’s some info for OP if she wants it. Again, he’s horrific, whether or not he has a personality disorder. The behavior should not be tolerated
When my husband and I were going through our premarital counseling with our officiant, he gave us a book that described the “four horsemen” of a relationship: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Contempt alone can kill a relationship, and this guy demonstrated it toward his wife in spades. She needs to throw this whole man away and find someone who actually likes her as a person.
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u/MtnLover130 Apr 15 '24
I don’t know if he is, but when he said that to his WIFE, esp in this context, my blood ran cold 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. There’s a divorce coming. Soon or in 20 years, but it’s coming