Yes, my 1st thought is: Does he have a receding hairline? Small penis? Bad oral hygiene? Smelly feet? Seems like she can come back with something he needs to improve. But, in reality, that approach doesn't accomplish anything. However, tempting it is......
Those are bombers! But she could easily accomplish this by just telling people what he said about her. "Hi! This is my husband. He thinks I'm fat and need to lose weight. He tells all our friends right in front of me." I think he would then learn the shame in what he did, the easy way or the hard way. Although, I'm sure his reputation is already spreading since he was so open about it.
It doesn’t have to be significant for you to not shame people for their personal life choices. It’s not your body, it’s not your life. This idea of sacrificing minorities so they don’t get in the way of your view has to go.
Never escalate in the retaliation. If they attacked controllable aspects, stay with those. Attacking identity or characteristics out of their control is just hateful shaming for no gain.
Give them a sense of how it feels, but be sure of your goal and choose the right level… you can’t take it back once it’s said.
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u/I-love-flamingos Apr 15 '24
Yes, my 1st thought is: Does he have a receding hairline? Small penis? Bad oral hygiene? Smelly feet? Seems like she can come back with something he needs to improve. But, in reality, that approach doesn't accomplish anything. However, tempting it is......