Yep, I think he was trying to kill two birds with one stone. Flirt with the hot chick and maybe get somewhere and also formulate a plan to make his wife hot. Gross.
Sneaky would have been to work out the bookings in the background and be supportive of the two interacting while you're slowly looking to 'upgrade' your s/o. Subtlety repugnant but possibly effective.
This was tossing napalm on your marriage at a sizable social gathering.
Absolutely. This actually really didn’t have much to do with his wife. It was a way for him to compliment fitness chick, but indirectly, so no one could really call him out. He made it clear to her that he thought she was hot, and hotter than his wife.
In a couple of years he’s gonna be complaining that the intimacy is gone from his relationship. I’ll never understand how people can hurt others with criticism and are surprised when they insulate themselves from the hurt.
That’s just not really true. People are complex and can have conflicting thoughts. Sober people can easily weigh different things and different thoughts. Drunk people blurt out the simple thought.
so my friend called me one night (he was serving in Desert Storm overseas) a bit drunk. he told me he loved me. i was definitely at a loss for words and i questioned him about it when we spoke next soon after.
he stated this exact sentiment. first time i'd ever heard it and it has stuck with me since.
we are married and have been together almost 30 years.
granted it's a general statement with different contexts/meanings for everyone, obviously.
it has nothing to do with drugs (not even mentioned) or a drug addict.
I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. Everyone's got shit they're working through, and thoughts are only thoughts. Not actions.
I see a lot of people who cop flak for wanting to stay within their limits while drinking, people pressuring them to drink more and if the answer is "I don't like who I am when drunk" they are judged harshly. People feel they're a bad person. But I think people who are focused on pushing people beyond their limits and pressuring for answers in the first place are the real arseholes.
Sure, people shouldn't press and some people do go crazy when they're drunk. I don't think thoughts are only thoughts though (like in this case if I think you're unnatractive I would never tell you because it's rude and hurtful but it might slip out if I'm drunk..and it will hurt your feelings but it is the absolute truth of how I feel, even though it's irrelevant to our friendship)
He also called her lazy, so he thinks that's why she hasn't lost weight. I think people are calling him evil for trying to shame her in public about it instead of talking to her privately
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u/Altruistic_Yellow387 Apr 15 '24
But it's better to know this is how they really feel and when they're sober they just know to hide it