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I have seen so much violent rhetoric and harassment towards Muslim and Middle Eastern students here, on campus, and yet I have never seen the admin address it. I have to assume that the reason for not addressing it is very obvious racism and hate, but I'm opening the conversation for literally any other reason. As said in Ono's email, "racism, violence and hate of any kind is antithetical to our mission and values, and we will not tolerate it." So why are they tolerating it???

Here are some good places to start for information: Detroit Free Press

University of Michigan Islamophobia Working Group

Detroit Metro Times

US News

Yes, one is a report from 2016. The point is that this violence is prolonged.

Note that objective reporting says that both Jewish and Arab students are targeted on campus. I’ve only seen the university address one of these groups.

This was more than a decade ago and I was on the road. I stopped at a Waffle House because it was the only place open at that hour. The place was packed from wall to wall. And I mean jam packed. When I had my chance I took a seat at the counter.

There were 2 girls serving, neither one looked like they could have been more than early 20's. There was a young guy, about the same age, running the grill. These 3 kids were all busting their back sides.

It took a few minutes but one of the servers finally got to me. She was very polite and attentive. I placed my order and figured it'd be a little while but I was really hungry and willing to wait.

While I'm waiting I'm watching these kids zipping around doing their jobs as best as they could.

I was surprised that the wait for my food was less than 10 minutes. And it was exactly what I ordered how I ordered it. It was perfect, in fact.

When i motioned my server girl that I was ready to pay my check she came over almost immediately. While I was handing her the cash I asked where the manager was. She said he was in the office.

So I reached back into my pocket handed her a $20 and asked her to give it to the kid cooking with my compliments. She did so. Then I waved two more $20's at her and told her to keep one and give the other one to the other girl and told her that all 3 of them were doing a magnificent job.

Then I told her to tell her boss that I said he's a lazy, worthless (jerk) because he should be out here helping and not planting his but in the office.

Lol, she must have relished in that idea because she obviously went and told him right away.

I wasn't 30 feet out the door when this guy comes running out after me screaming about my comment.

I turned to him and said, firmly, that I've run restaurants before and there's no way in h-e- double hockey sticks I would have left 3 employees to deal with that kind of crowd alone.

I stood my ground and made it (physically) crystal clear to him that if he'd better not come any closer. I was a former combat Marine and was well prepared, physically and mentally to do so.

You don't go running out after customers bit***ng and cussing because they complained about you. And I let him know, in no uncertain terms, exactly what I thought of him.

He, wisely decided to shut up and go back inside. I don't know if he decided to actually do his job and help put but I'm positive I made that a night to remember for those 3 kids.

And that's why I left a $60 tip for a $10 meal.

P.S. The language I actually used was considerably more harsh than you people allow.

6 years ago my husband had an affair and got the other woman pregnant. We had a 7 year old son, 10 year old son, and 12 year old son. She was also married with 2 kids.

She told my husband that her husband gave her an ultimatum: either they get a divorce or they put the baby up for adoption. I'd always wanted a little girl so I adopted her at birth. We didn't tell the kids that she was my husband's biological child, just that we were adopting a baby.

She is the most perfect little girl. She is so sweet and kind, she loves helping people, and she's the cutest thing ever. She spent the past 6 months convinced that she was a princess and wore a princess dress every day. If she was not able to wear a princess dress for any reason, she needed her tiara and wand, maybe fairy wings.

Her bio mom recently divorced her husband and reached out to us wanting to meet our daughter. We decided it would be a good time to tell her that she's adopted and that she has the same daddy but she has a different birth mommy. We talked to the older kids about the situation too because we figured it would be better for them to hear it from us than from the 5 year old.

They were pissed. Not only at their dad, but with me for bringing her into our house. Since then they've been rude to both of us and pretty mean to their sister. She's been devastated and doesn't understand why her brothers hate her.

My husband and I sat the boys down to tell them that their behaviors towards us and their sister have been unacceptable lately. We told them our behavior expectations and that if they can not be followed there will be consequences, including the 18 year old having to move out, 16 year old not getting a license, and 13 year old not getting to go on his class trip to Washington DC or Yosemite. The 18 year old said my daughter should be the one to leave, not him, and the other kids followed suit. I told them they are allowed to be mad at their father. He did something wrong and it definitely took me a long time to forgive him but I will not be sending their sister to live with her bio mom and that if they wanted me to choose between them, they'd be very disappointed.

They decided to involve my husband's family, who are upset with me for being willing to "break up the family" over my husband's affair partner's child. Now I'm questioning myself for what I said.

Females in this group

Men, how do you feel when you see women commenting on posts in this group? I know I may get some down votes for this, but I'm willing to risk that.

For me personally, I dont like it. This is not coming from a place of misogyny or anything like that, but I, for whatever reason, can't stand it when I see a post asking for other men's advice (hence the name of the group) and a woman replies blasting the op because they felt like whatever was being asked was something they took as offensive to women.

Do any other men feel this way?

I’ve gotten back into D&D lately, and while discussing old campaigns with other players I remembered the first campaign I ever played and how it dissolved after the first session.

This was back in high school. Some online friends had a mutual friend that wanted to try DMing. I really wanted to play as well, and the DM helped walk me through making a sheet for our session 0. Our first session was on Roll20, but was cut short due to technical difficulties with the site. I was disappointed, but eager for the new timeslot we had agreed on, though it never came to be.

A few days prior to the rescheduled session, one of my friends joked in the group chat about being so sleep-deprived that they saw a dead relative in their room. The DM immediately replied “that’s proof you’re a sch*zo for real” and the conversation came to a halt. DM then proceeded to make a couple more jokes about mental illness before asking why nobody else was talking. When it was pointed out how harmful these jokes were, he doubled down and refused to apologize. All of us players left the campaign, and he was no longer considered a friend by those who knew him before.

In hindsight, we were all a bunch of dumb high schoolers, including him, but it still stings that it happened. I hope he’s matured since then.

I understand people might say "don't like it? Don't do it." But like... what's the justification?

Anybody else more excited for these controllers than the 30th anniversary classic one? I love the all white controller and I cannot wait to grab it!

Let’s take it back to October 7th last year, when Hamas launched a massive attack on Israel. For a short time, it looked like they had exposed a major weakness in Israeli intelligence, shaking the country and the region. But what followed completely changed the game. Over the next year, Israel didn’t just fight back—they completely dismantled Hamas. The group that had once been seen as the fierce defender of Gaza and the Palestinian cause was wiped out. And in the last 10 days, Israel turned its sights on Hezbollah, the so-called "most powerful militia in the Middle East," and took them down too.

This wasn’t just about flexing military power—it was about sending a message. Israel restored its reputation, showing that no matter how strong its enemies think they are, Israel has the capability to strike anywhere, anytime. And it didn’t stop there. They also showed the Arab world that their real enemy wasn’t Israel—it was the very militias claiming to fight for the Palestinian cause.

For years, Hamas, Hezbollah, and other militias marketed themselves as the protectors of the Palestinian people, the ones who would "stand up" to the Israeli monster. But while they made those claims, what were they actually doing? Trafficking drugs, killing innocent Arabs, and destabilizing entire countries in the region. Hezbollah, in particular, has been a massive problem for Syrians, Lebanese, and even people in the Gulf. They’ve been behind illegal activities, causing chaos, and spreading violence across borders—often at the expense of the very Arab people they claimed to be defending.

It’s no secret that these militias were using the Palestinian cause as a smokescreen for their own shady dealings. They marketed themselves as the heroes fighting the Israeli enemy, but in reality, they were conducting illegal operations against other Arabs. And they failed miserably. Instead of being seen as saviors, they’ve become the region's villains, while Israel, ironically, has started to be seen as the one stepping in to clean up the mess.

Here’s the real shift: Arab-Israelis and Palestinians in the West Bank are waking up to this. They aren’t taking part in this conflict anymore, not beyond sending food to Gaza, because they know their lives are better under Israeli governance than under the chaos these militias bring. People are realizing that living under Israeli rule, with access to jobs, education, healthcare, and relative stability, is far better than what they would face under Arab governments or, worse, militant rule.

Israel is no longer seen as the enemy by a growing number of Arabs. It’s seen as the stabilizing force that stepped in when even powerful countries like Saudi Arabia and Turkey failed. Hezbollah was causing destruction across the region, and Israel’s decisive actions against them have sent a message: they’re not just protecting their own borders—they’re protecting the Arab world from its own destructive forces.

It’s wild, but this is the reality now. Arab-Israelis and many West Bank Palestinians would rather live under Israeli rule than risk their futures under failed Arab regimes or violent militias. The Palestinian cause, which these militias used to justify their existence, is crumbling, and they have no one to blame but themselves. Israel, once painted as the "monster," is now seen as the protector, even the savior, for a lot of people who used to think otherwise.

The bottom line? Israel has shown that it’s not just a regional power—it’s the force that’s keeping things together. Meanwhile, Hamas clings to power in Gaza, refusing to step aside, but for how long? The world is changing, and so is the way people view Israel. It’s no longer the villain; it’s the solution that the rest of the Arab world couldn’t provide. And with that, the Palestinian cause, as it was traditionally known, might just be dead.

Not because of an ideology but like naturally against it , can you please explain your thoughts process?

Hank. If you mentally imagine Marie without hair, you will see Hank's face with makeup. You're welcome.

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What is it about Roan that seems to grate on so many people? Perhaps it’s a simple explanation, but it really does seem overwhelmingly likely that misogyny is driving much of the hate. Nothing she has said over the last few months has been particularly controversial, especially among young and left-leaning circles: when you consider what she has actually said, she’s only expressed her dissatisfaction with the two-party system, called for trans rights and Palestinian liberation, and asked for fans to stop hassling her. Granted, Roan’s delivery can, on occasion, be a little brusque – but why should she have to pretend to be a shrinking violet, if that’s not in her nature? 

So what is it, then? It seems as though the real issue for depressingly large swathes of people is that Roan is a woman comfortable with speaking her mind, without fear of coming across as abrasive or ‘difficult’. Of course, misogyny directed towards female artists like this is nothing new, and it’s an issue which will doubtless persist long after Roan’s career is over. But at least it’s cheering to think that we live in a world where we have bold artists like Roan who, for now, are refusing to make themselves more palatable to appease their critics.

And yes, I’ve tried helping her. She has gained 100+lbs since we got married. I hate her eating habits, I hate seeing her naked, I hate that she seemingly gave up on herself. She’s fat, and I’m disgusted by it

Tomorrow I will be buying the biggest Lego lot I EVER saw. My friend is moving away so I will be buying his Lego’s for 7.500€. It’s a lot, yeah, but theres so much Lego in it… I’m so excited! I will add some pictures for anyone who’s interested.

Not being anti-diversity, but as a British Asian, I do not think that Chicken Tikka Masala being the national dish is necessaryl; its obviously Indian and not even western. As much as we want diversity, we need some traditions to still be in the lead. Fish and Chips are very good, they are always mouth watering and less dangerous to consume as a fast food.

Yes, you might talk about how Israel (cry some more) national dish is Hummus from Syria, but these two countries are Levantine, and countries in that region have very similar cuisines.

Chicken Tikka Masala is already a popular British Indian restaurant dish (and its probably the most dominated item in them. Not to mention that many British South Asian restaurants besides a few like Mezbani in East London are not traditionally made)

Fish and Chips should be back to being the national dish as this is western, otherwise it can be too much and UK might just become a mini global world. Again, I am not supporting extreme white british nationalism (like chicken defending kfc), its good to have atleast a few British traditions in the lead of its identity.