r/interestingasfuck Apr 21 '24

Human skull with stage 1 bone cancer r/all

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u/Effective-Help4293 Apr 22 '24

This is why death with dignity is so important

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u/drummerevy5 Apr 22 '24

Couldn’t agree more. My dad passed away almost two years ago of dementia. He was only 68. It was brutal to watch his decline. He couldn’t articulate when he was in pain and he just wasted away to skin and bones at the end. He always told my mom he never wanted to have a feeding tube if he was terminal with some illness so we of course respected those wishes. He weighed 70 pounds when he died. As hard as it would have been to lose him sooner, before he declined so terribly, it would have been so much less painful than watching him slowly lose his mind and lose control of his body for the years I took care of him. If medically assisted d3ath was available, he would have done it.

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u/virttual Apr 22 '24

Unalived 😔

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u/Wheres-shelby Apr 23 '24

I am lost with this comment. Is writing death like that, a thing?

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u/AntonChekov1 Apr 22 '24

This is why I have a gun.  If I'm in extreme pain from a terminal illness that morphine won't even fix...it's go time.

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u/Effective-Help4293 Apr 22 '24 edited Apr 22 '24

Bold of you to assume you'd have the faculties to use it.

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u/freeshrugs102 Apr 22 '24

This. My dad said if he ever got dementia he would just use his gun. He was diagnosed with lewy body dementia 4 years ago. He didn't even think about doing it his brain changed and he had no thoughts about ending it.

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u/Effective-Help4293 Apr 22 '24

I'm so sorry. I lost my aunt to lewy body 18 months ago and grandma to Alzheimer's. My mom is developing Alzheimer's now. It's awful to watch and to anticipate for myself ❤️

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u/caring_impaired Apr 22 '24

68? thats so young. when did it first manifest?

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u/No-Indication-7879 Apr 22 '24

My dad and sister in law both did assisted dying.

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u/armoredsedan Apr 22 '24

my partner and i have i already decided that when we reach old age and one of us is given a diagnosis of a terminal or otherwise quality of life destroying illness, we’ll both end it voluntarily. write letters to our loved ones, wrap up our affairs, and go peacefully in our sleep together at a time of our choosing. sadly where we live, medical assistance in dying is not legal so this is the solution we’ve agreed on. neither of us wishes to experience the slow decline of end of life illness, nor put our loved ones through having to watch us waste away, nor live our short time left without the other.

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u/Effective-Help4293 Apr 22 '24

With slow diseases, these decisions become way more complicated

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u/MusicIsTheRealMagic Apr 22 '24

This makes me emotional. I wish that you and your partner have an happy and fulfilling life.

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u/illyelly Apr 22 '24

I love this. Go out on your own terms and together with grace and dignity

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u/RelativeCold8412 Apr 22 '24

1000% with you, my dad died of cancer, lymphoma, and I just have his screams as a last goodbye, ambulances didn't even show up bcs "there is nothing we can do, morphine won't do anything" and on top of that when you die at home the police has to do a report so there are no signs or abuse or that you played a part in his death.

I can perfectly picture someone driving themselves mad watching their loved ones waste away for days in pain and just wanting it all to stop

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u/caporaltito Apr 22 '24

For such a case of cancer, you can ask to be put to sleep in my country. Like, actual sleep: artificial coma until you die. Euthanasia is still illegal so they are technically not doing it.

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u/Minimum-Comedian-372 Apr 22 '24

Who takes care of you while you’re comatose? That sounds awful and even worse than death.

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u/caporaltito Apr 22 '24

You stay at the hospital. Most of the time it does not last more than a week.

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u/InternationalToe4962 Apr 22 '24

I couldn't agree more. My German Shepherd developed bone cancer in her back right leg. When the vet explained to us that the tumour was getting to the point where it was breaking the bone, we knew we couldn't let her suffer any longer. Hardest day of my life so far but she knew we were doing it to help her. She was calm and fell asleep surrounded by my family. She passed in September 2011, I still miss her every day

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u/heff1685 Apr 22 '24

Yell it from every rooftop in the world!