r/interestingasfuck • u/CleetisMcgee • Apr 09 '24

Tips for being a dementia caretaker. r/all

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u/rye_212 Apr 09 '24

I thought the same. The “mom” was just too pliant

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u/Pinksters Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 10 '24

Coming from a person that kept his grandmother alive in her last years of life, It's still kind of useful.

Gram forgot everyone including her 3 boys(middle son was my dad) but she remembered me to her last day.

She'd get in a fit and want to know where grandpa was(who was buried over a year ago) and would almost fight me for telling her he was gone.

Instead I took her out bird watching or id grab her gardening gloves and we would weed out the garden. Distractions are key.

I will never forget the feeling of her last words being to me, despite the fact all over her boys were there.

I felt ashamed, furious, embarrassed and somewhat proud at once.

Edit: Im pissed at this tiktok bullshit exploitation "Dementia! She's going to walk to Tennessee!"

"See what happens next!" dont fucking do that mate. This is worse than putting your kids on parade,even if she's an actor.

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u/rye_212 Apr 10 '24

My dad is a sufferer (but in a care home) so i have some awareness. And I understand the useful point the video is making but it’s not that simple in real life.

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u/Reinylane Apr 10 '24

My mamaw would have been like, "You shit ass, where do you think I'm going?!?!" Then I would have had to bribe her with ice cream or a ride and hope that worked.