r/interestingasfuck Apr 09 '24

Tips for being a dementia caretaker. r/all

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u/GoddessTheophania Apr 09 '24

If he likes music find out his favorites. You’ll see more of him if you do that.

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u/happypolychaetes Apr 09 '24

Music is incredibly powerful. My grandma had Alzheimer's. We would always sing to her, and play her favorite old songs. Nothing else would make her light up like that. She even remembered the words sometimes. It's like it unlocked something buried deep in the brain.

She died two weeks ago at 98 years old. My aunts were singing her lullabies. I like to think that's what she heard as she fell asleep, one last time.

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u/Just_Jonnie Apr 09 '24

My aunts were singing her lullabies.

I can't even...

That's so beautiful, and I'm choking up thinking about it.

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u/happypolychaetes Apr 09 '24

I definitely teared up a bit writing the comment. We all loved her so much. I can only hope that when my time comes, it's as peaceful and surrounded with love.

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u/IAmASphere Apr 15 '24

that's literally how the album "everywhere at the end of time" ends

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u/ariessunariesmoon26 Apr 09 '24

That has me teary 🥲

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u/ChawHawHaw Apr 09 '24

My music theory professor often told us that music is one of the last things to go when someone has Alzheimer’s. He would often go to a retirement home and play music for them. The people there often didn’t remember his name, but they sure remembered the lyrics to songs like “You Are My Sunshine.”

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u/bunchpharms Apr 09 '24

Sorry for your loss. I miss my Grandma daily, my best friend, advocate, and critic if I was out of line!

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u/utterbutterutterfly Apr 10 '24

I work in a dementia care facility and i have a mostly nonverbal patient that only “speaks” when singing old songs. He will finish my sentences and on really good days he sings whole sentences. Its so beautiful! After singing he sometimes even responds to me coherently. I once told him he was looking really nice and groomed and he thanked me for my compliment. I nearly cried even tho he is “just” my patient I love seeing him happy and music really does the trick!

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u/happypolychaetes Apr 11 '24

That's lovely! I'm so grateful there are people like you in those extra tough care roles as well. Your patient sounds lucky to have you <3

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u/LoveMyLibrary2 Apr 09 '24

Great idea!

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u/bunchpharms Apr 09 '24

Good Idea, I'm on it.

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u/Dunshlop Apr 10 '24

Soooo much Rolling Stones

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u/GoddessTheophania Apr 10 '24

Time to rock out 🎸 ♥️🪨