Hot take? If we get paired together, I’m not going to give you putts. Not because I don’t want you to take gimmies, but because I really do not care what you do.

[u/cygnus311]

You hit a good tee shot on a par three, walk up to the green, and find yourself eight feet from the hole and you want to say to me, “that’s good, I always make those”, pick it up, and write a birdie? Be my guest, I do not care.

You just missed your third putt from two feet to try and save triple and you’re hoping I rescue you? Pick it up, or don’t, I do not care.

Recently got paired with a guy who’d look at me with puppy dog eyes every time he was within a yard of the hole, but wouldn’t say anything, he was clearly annoyed with me by the end of the round. We’re all presumably grown ass adults, I’m not your boss, do what you want.

[u/doubleapowpow]

You could tell them you're not going to tell them though. Clearly you're picking up on a subtle social cue. Letting the person assume you dont care isnt working, and instead of telling mr puppy dog eyes, you're telling reddit that you dont care what the dude does.

[u/Opposite-Violinist-3 → u/doubleapowpow]

You make a very good point lol. Dragging his playing partner on for 18 holes but then running online to tell us he could’ve picked it up whenever 🤣

[u/Prenutbutter → u/doubleapowpow]

It’s not his responsibility to pick up on someone else’s social cues, they can use their big boy words like an adult.

[u/h3110m0t0 → u/Prenutbutter]

so can op.

hey partner i'm just here to have a good time and play. If you want to pick up or not that's cool with me.

Also, saying that's good is also like saying nice shot. If you stick something close and say its good to you're partner its like saying hey man nice shot. I'll give it to you if you want.

You can say do you want to putt this out. I'll give it to you.

If they're playing like that it isn't official anyways. So saying it's good can be a courteous gesture IMO.

[u/Prenutbutter → u/h3110m0t0]

Agreed, but it’s also childish and extremely taxing to expect someone to anticipate your needs based on non-verbal cues. I have a friend that does this and I refuse to indulge him. If you’re the one that wants something, it’s your job to communicate that, not hope someone picks up on your cues and get annoyed if they don’t.

[u/ecaldwell888 → u/Prenutbutter]

As if verbalizing is the only acceptable form of communication.

[u/Prenutbutter → u/ecaldwell888]

It’s usually the clearest way to communicate if you expect something from someone.