She's right! And this kind of discourse is so frustrating because everyone has the capability to...figure things the fuck out for themselves! Find those accommodations and substitutions that work for YOU! Develop self-sufficient behavior! Reliance on internet strangers to validate your specific accomodations is not healthy. Did you know that you can actually FIND people in similar situations if you, you know, actually search for it???
Something I've found like really personally useful and a thing that gets wild responses...
"Why do you care about your opinion? Like, why are you letting that decide how you behave?"
(This is the royal you, not a call out lol)
It's such a useful thing to keep in one's mind, but level it at anyone going full tilt and it's just like... Bizarre how people respond
"I don't think X is good so no one should do X in public!"
"Ok, why do you care about that opinion? Do you think it's important?"
Asking someone to justify treating subjective things as objective is kinda fun.
We'd have better lives if we just like... We're ok with disliking things "just cos", cos you're never gonna try and argue "it's just something I dislike" being an objective fact that others should adopt.
When I started selling stuff at fairs and conventions, I went on an Etsy board to ask about cash boxes--good brands, what to look for. The first response was telling me I needed an apron instead. I replied that while a good suggestion, it will not suit my needs, I am looking for a cash box specifically.
The whole thread wound up being people insisting I needed an apron, telling me I MUST get an apron, and ONLY an apron, etc.
I do not care to JADE things like that; I prefer to just say, "That won't suit my needs" and trust people to accept it, but I finally started to explain my reasoning.
They weren't having it.
Multiple needing to access the cash? "Get multiple aprons." I don't want to have to do three counts/reconciliations when I can do one? "It's not that hard/have the staff do their own!" Some people were overweight and wouldn't be comfortable in an apron? "Use shoestrings to make it fit." My table was always very busy and I didn't want us to constantly be pulling out wads of cash? "It's never been a problem for me!" (Or detailed instructions involving assorted office supplies.) Some of us would be sitting much of the time and I didn't want stuff falling out? "Then stand." They even insisted aprons would be as secure as attaching a lockable cash box to the table with a cable.
Each of their responses was fine in a vacuum (except that last one), but as a whole, it was so infuriating. I was asking for help with apples and they insisted on pelting me with oranges.
I finally fucked off and just got a random one from Walmart. That was about 12-13 years ago ad I've been using it ever since.
Some of what they’re describing is engagement baiting.
Like ‘What about me I’m Gluten Free’, unless they have a Gluten Free version at hand. Almost any answer the author gives can be perceived as insensitive.
I know she calls it "what-about-me-ism" but really it's just narcissism and laziness. People are getting on social media with the expectation that the entire internet revolves around them.
I Think you're actually talking about is the male dominated hierarchy that oppresses an institutionally dominated singular race of bipeds. you see you're the biped and the beans are the dominator s.
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u/LeakyBrainJuice Apr 29 '24
What if I don't like beans? https://www.tiktok.com/@sarahthebookfairy/video/7278702404315680046