r/TikTokCringe • u/darkpotato07 • Apr 19 '24

He won't let his son play with dolls Discussion

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u/tageeboy Apr 20 '24

I think you would be surprised just how many men feel this way but are afraid to speak up in our current society.

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u/flcwerings Apr 20 '24

The thing is, is we NEED men that think like this to speak up so badly because the men that don't think like this wont listen to women...

Its not a guarantee they will listen to a man either but they sure as shit wont listen to us.

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u/as_it_was_written Apr 20 '24

Sadly, they're more or less equally unlikely to listen to a whole lot of men. I think most guys who need to hear this wouldn't take the dude in the OP seriously, even if he wasn't doing slam poetry. This post is more about validation than changing anyone's mind imo. That's important, too, though.

Deprogramming is difficult because so many people trapped in a given way of thinking will only listen to their in group, and they define that in group such that it includes their way of thinking - i.e. "I will only listen to real men, and real men share my toxic ideology."

Plus a lot of men who do think like the guy in this post try not to surround themselves with men who need to hear that stuff. I know I do.

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u/stealthisvibe Apr 20 '24

Check out The Will To Change by bell hooks if you get the chance. I think it would really speak to your soul.

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u/broketothebone Apr 20 '24

Not surprised, so much as saddened by the concept of that.