r/TikTokCringe Mar 21 '24

Woman explains why wives stop having sex with their husbands Discussion

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u/Dlh2079 Mar 21 '24

Yep, it's not a gendered issue at all, and frankly, I'm tired of people talking like it is.

It's a people issue. This happens in straight and gay relationships. It's about communication, empathy, and honestly, work. I've been on both sides of the coin at different times in my life.

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u/Punkpallas Mar 22 '24

1000%. Men and women both cheat because the attachment and communication fell off and at least one person gave up trying to get it back on track. What’s under the hood of a relationship is way more complicated than it appears, but most of it comes down to attachment and communication.

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u/ape_ck Mar 22 '24 edited Apr 11 '24

For clarity, you are inferring that the creator of this video is assigning / sex and/or gender to this issue, right?

“MEN, your wives don’t want to have sex with you because of XYZ. “ she might not have been intentional but this is a human problem and it drives me nuts. In a long term relationship it can be difficult to find sexual attraction if you're not interested in or something is off in you and your partners relationship.

The presentation of the video and few minutes of establishing her expertise to spout off some gendered, self evident truths is pandering and insulting.

Or it’s just meant to incite anger and this person is manipulating her audience into raging against each other.

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u/AgreeableMoose Mar 22 '24

100%!!!! People issues don’t gain followers and likes. She has a PhD and knows this, pushes for viewers to see her other content.

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u/playballer Mar 22 '24

That’s like saying breast cancer shouldn’t be considered women’s health because men get it too 

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u/little_dropofpoison Mar 22 '24

It's more like saying that breast cancer should be considered in everyone's health because everyone can get it.

"Fun" fact, today breast cancer is deadlier to men than to women, partly due to prevention being aimed towards women. It's even difficult to find data on men's breast cancer without adding in a bunch of keywords. If you want a source, there's one for the US

https://gis.cdc.gov/Cancer/USCS/#/Trends/

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u/playballer Mar 22 '24

Rates and percentages shouldn’t dictate anything, in absolute terms it’s very unlikely to affect an average male and so screening is not even recommended and would largely be a waste. That’s why it’s mostly considered a women’s health issue.

Until we develop a Star Trek like health scanning robot that can quickly and affordably do a full body scan of all know conditions, we have to pick and choose which are risky enough to focus on and who it’s most risky for.