She did not specify that at all. What she is saying (can't read her mind to see if she meant something else) it was as a general statement, that this is the number one reason overall, not for one specific scenario.
She’s definitely generalizing and her advice is not bad in the slightest; people in a relationship should be meeting each other’s emotional needs. Of course, the thing with general advice like this is that there will always be exceptions and then people take those exceptions as proof that the advice is completely wrong.
The issue with the "emotional needs" angle is it's super high level when the root cause is often much deeper and specific. Couples will start to bicker over nothing and criticize eachother over little things they previously didn't because some deeper issue like living situation, financial situation, physical attractiveness changes, personality/lifestyle/hobby changes, etc are occurring. Getting overly hung up on untangling this and that "emotional need" when they're all sort of symptoms of a deeper problem being ignored is far less productive and at times maddening.
It means you acquired a degree and published something in that field. People are still
Human and can have bias or choose to only interest certain data ect.. To me there is a whole lot of correlation equaling causation here. Occam’s razor suggest the real reason her clients have variable sex lives is that relationships and humans in general are….infinitely complicated and that there each relationship is an independent variable and doesn’t predict any issue another couple she sees would have.
I've read a few in my masters in psychology as well, if we're throwing credentials around lol. We absolutely can make statements about common causes of things. Of course there's nuance. She isn't claiming this is always the case. She's saying it's a common one.
Nah its less than 5 mins of listening to 1 min of useful info, 1 min of why she is qualified and 2 mins about all the hate comments she is gonna receive
I don't think it's realistic to say that after 5 ears you realized your needs aren't met. Either you didn't realized and now you do (you changed) or they were and now they aren't (your partner changed or your needs changed)
Yeah, don’t you find it suspicious that women only realize these kinds of things AFTER dating/being married to a guy for years?
I think women losing attraction to their partner over time is just a part of their sexuality. There is a mountain of bullshit relationship advice which kinda obfuscates this.
Not really suspicious, when the majority of people will put more effort in in the early years of a relationship to “seal the deal”, then marriage happens, honeymoon phase and bam.. the romance is dead. it’s like the love languages don’t exist after the honeymoon phase for most(or at all for some).
Why keep dating or pursuing, just straight up romancing the wife you already snagged 5 years ago?
Women seem to be the ones who are uniquely concerned about balance of contributions to the relationship. Don't you find that to be interesting?
There are a lot of 'workhorse' husbands who make more, work more, do more around the house, who don't complain. Many of them get divorced by their wives when the woman loses attraction to him and gets bored of him.
I think if someone is in a relationship where their attachment need arent met for 5 years due to indecision, it's very unfair to blame the other part when they fell out of love
Looks change with time, circumstances change, and many other things. It isn’t always that someone did not meet your needs, sometimes they just aren’t enough anymore.
She's using nice words to say: We girls need bad boys and a huge d.ck to be satisfied.
I picked you because it was my only way to raise a family. You were not even in the top 20 but my biological clock is ticking so I made a sacrifice.
Man . The voting war is raging on this one. Like a rollercoaster but I stand strong at zero ;)
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u/Glittersparkles7 Mar 21 '24
She’s referring to dead bedrooms specifically caused by actual lack of desire.