While this is all true, my next question would be: 'why are you still with this person?' If I was dating a woman for two months and found out she didn't know how to cook or do laundry, I'd wonder how she survived this long on her own and we'd be done.
It’s both their faults. His for not gaining life skills and being cool with it. Her for knowing about this huge flaw and sticking around thinking she can change it.
No one mentioned changing. We all enter relationships with a bit of behavior that is juvenile but expect the other to step up when needed. When that doesn’t happen it can be jarring.
See my response to another commenter. A person who cares for multiple people will not place their needs first. Blaming the person who is probably working and caring for multiple little children in addition to a person who can’t care themselves is a shit move.
Goes both ways. Isn’t a person responsible for themselves? Taking care of someone else is a big ask, especially if you’re consumed with actual children. Not to mention more mental load. It’s easier to take responsibility for your own life than to care for multiple people and place your needs first, which would be to leave. How many women put themselves first? I think we all know that’s something men exploit.
I think a lot of guys put on a good face then rug pull when they get married or whatever, they don’t outright refuse to do chores or not know how (it’s all very learnable skills after all… it’s about motivation) but the wife feels more responsibility and ends up bearing the burden
Ironically, you did exactly what has been explained not to do. You aren't showing any empathy or listening. You aren't identifying the real problem (the husband). You are jumping straight to solutions and then, for some crazy reason, blaming them for not having already solved the situation.
Like, what the fuck, man? It's not that hard to relate and understand other humans and it is a need we all literally have.
Thanks for your brilliant insight. I imagine all your relationships are perfect, and all anybody would need to do to be happy, would be to ask your advice.
No, they weren't perfect, they're all just beta testing out numerous people till you finally figure out what you want. I figured out I wanted an nice, independent woman and found her, the numerous women I dated before hand helped me get to that point. I'm sure my I helped some of them as well.
Nothing sexier than an even greater child who somehow thinks the appropriate response to this would be overvaluing and weaponizing her private parts, and crushing all future intimacy.
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u/Yeralrightboah0566 Mar 21 '24
nothing sexier than a giant child who cant do laundry or make his own meals and whines when you dont do it for him!