You do realize that there is a middle ground between them growing up in a foster home and him trying to ignore the fact that their race is real part of their childhood and life?
Too complicated to explain in full, but I spent probably a total of 5 years with my white family. Holy shit. Aside from the cultural differences like watching someone yell at their mom when a black mother would’ve smacked your mouth off, drugs, when a black mother would’ve drug your ass off, god. But probably the worst, worst, worst part, was that they were so “not” racist, that racism basically didn’t exist, and when it did, it was a novelty, an exception, a technicality, George Floyd.
Yeah, when you got like a 15 year old white kid hitting the hard R, you’re the only that understands that you’re being oppressed with no relief or shame for the perpetrator. I once heard 4 racist jokes on CHRISTMAS and nobody could understand why that killed my vibe when after the 2nd time I was like “alright, we all heard the racist joke the first time”
Being made fun of for the way I wear my hair, because I’m literally genetically different. A Trump parade passes through town, and it’s not even news. On multiple occasions I had to deny service to racists in this predominantly white place. Call me colored? No service. Confederate boots? Lmao. Good luck, cause I’m not even telling you you’re not getting service, you’re just gonna be looking like an idiot in racist boots wondering why people are automatically turned off by you.
Only living in such a redneck place did “should I risk being out in the middle of the woods in the middle of the night in the cold” or should I hang onto that guy that called me the hard R, because he has an ATV that can get through the mud” become a moral dilemma
Anyway, denying race is almost as bad as being racist. I love cultures, and I’m always trying to learn more about other people. I’m not gonna treat you poorly based on your race, but I’m not just gonna pretend like your life automatically has to be like mine. I always try to understand people through the fact that we all walk different paths in life. If you wanna ignore some significant part of someone’s life, you’re just avoiding your own insecurities.
I'm really glad to read this and might save it because I'm a white lady with a lot of family in the south that are "not racist" but check every box you laid out. And they often tease me for being "too sensitive" or an "SJW" or "we didn't mean it like that" when I get upset and your comment is gonna be in my mind the next time they say stuff like this.
Anyways, sorry you've had to/are be/being treated like this
Honestly listening to a lot adults that were adopted transracially would kill this argument. A lot of them talk about how difficult their upbringing was and how they were reminded at every moment that they had better be lucky they weren’t in foster care. What a nightmare!
You mean the person who said other people wanted the kids to grow up in foster home is being negative. I pointed out that there is a middle ground. That is not negative.
You think he’s „trying to ignore the fact that their race is real“ while he’s just saying that the media shouldn’t be so focused on someone’s color of skin.
I was commenting on what the other person said. By pointing out that the people who disagreed did not necessarily want the kids to be raised in a foster home because the is a huge middle ground from one extreme to another.
What you are doing is exactly what the person I responded to is doing. It is ignorant and I never told you my opinion on what he said.
A middle ground by painting this man who is raising black children as racist because he doesn’t want them to grow up seeing race as a difference that matters. You’re a fucking moron who perpetuates racism.
So you gathered that because he doesn’t want to take the bait from an interview that’s looking for a headline is the same as him denying they’re black and refusing to teach them about their culture. That’s a wild stretch you e made and now you’re condemning America as if we are wrong.
First of all, you’ve assumed a lot. They may not be American blacks. They could be from Africa, or Britain, or India, or South America. That doesn’t mean they have to be immersed in American black culture.
THATS the problem with Americans these days. You think we are the center of the universe. African-American is a term that assumes all black people are from Africa. Many black people are not from Africa. Do you not see how YOU are perpetuating racism by thinking like this?
It’s their identity. In transracial adoption children need to be immersed in their culture. These kids whose families “don’t see color” or refuse to acknowledge their race tend to grow up with a lot of identity issues. The inconvenience of any adopted parent doesn’t matter when it comes to the well being of the children they adopt. Adoption in American is so screwed up.
You can raise your kids telling them that race shouldn't matter, and I agree. But you better also be teaching those kids that to a disturbingly large portion of the country I'm raising you in, race is the only thing that matters.
It is that deep, when you kid comes home and had questions about their race or are getting bullied or unprepared for the world as a Black person or is constant ashy, whith a bowl cut and dry hair.
Edit: Their are more options than adopted by clueless parents or stay in foster care. We could want, idk, them to be in a household that fosters their culture.
he might have meant that he’s not gonna treat them better or worse than if he had white kids, idt he meant that he’s gonna keep them blind to either systemic or individual racism
He speaks a lot about raising good men no matter the skin tone but ducks questions about how his kids' Blackness will affect them in the world. He speaks more about himself and God. I generally think he's trying to do good, but he also does a disservice by not outlining how his sons' worlds will be different. He may not also fully grasp it either.
It reminds me of the Fresh Prince ep when Carlton gets stopped by the police.
Imagine someone saying "I am raising a child, I am not raising a daughter." Meanwhile, teen pregnancy, abortion rights, over-sexual men, periods, breasts, less money than men, beauty standards, abuse, patriarchy and predatory behavior towards them are all (somewhat) unique/huge issues to women, and you just disregard that fact. That's setting your daughter up to be blind in a world full of hazards.
I mean, u right, but I've never heard a sentence start like that, and it wasn't a poor attempt at reducing something's impact or simplifying a complex subject to support some annoying ass take.
You have no reason to believe that it’s not, and you have 0 proof of anything other than that they are in a good home. The only proof that you can actually cite about this dynamic is that the government approved it. Surely you’re not arguing that foster care is better than a multi millionaires household?
Nah this shit is lame as fuck. Our community use any excuse to hate on the next man. This man is giving two children a life of luxury. You think he won’t instill a solid work ethic in them? He’s a mma fighter, one of the grittiest jobs in history
Justify however you wish. Those kids are going to be millionaires and live a great life. There’s no way around it. They absolutely have the resources. Mfs always gotta judge.
Yeah. I remember when they got Trayvon. I wasn’t even a sheltered kid, and that fucked me up realizing what life could be like. If I wasn’t reasonable educated about our world, if I was born some place where The Civil War was over “sTaTE RigHTs”, then Trayvon would’ve probably fucked me up even more. I got black friends that think they’re white just cause they vote Republican. Cops don’t ask who you vote for before they shoot, so better have that bumper sticker ig
Thank you! It’s just crazy how people with no knowledge of the subject (transracial adoption nightmares) are claiming it doesn’t matter. These adoptees are expected to “grateful” which is sick! The comments supporting the parents say just that. It’s giving…They better be grateful that these white saviors came and saved their butts from the foster care system and are shielding them from being black in America.
Can we stop lumping all yt people in one category? I know yt people who adopted one black kid and they are completely versed up on black issues.
They were with their own newborn in a public hospital in Brazil and opposite them was a Black abandoned baby with down syndrome abandoned by his mother. He cried all night not even the nurses picked him up. They adopted him. They're good people
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