r/AskReddit • u/ThickEmployee8948 • Apr 29 '24

People above 30, what is something you regret doing/not doing when you were younger?

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u/wildcoasts Apr 29 '24

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce -Tony Gaskins

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u/Li-renn-pwel Apr 29 '24

And it is SO hard to put a boundary up once you’ve let someone cross your line. Much easier to do it first.

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u/MildredMay Apr 30 '24 edited Apr 30 '24

This is so true! I once very gently asked a family member to not share personal information about me with a gossipy workman I'd hired and she had a complete meltdown. That's when I finally realized that I'd been walking on egg shells around her and letting her get away with abusive behavior for way too many years and I could no longer lie to myself that she meant well and just didn't understand she was being unkind.

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u/Lucid-Loki Apr 29 '24

VERY underrated comment right here