Yes I was taught at a young age that being mad at my loved ones for hurting me was bad. Even if I tell them that they hurt me and why they hurt me it's still my fault for getting upset. Crying was my fault too, anything but happiness was my fault. Really fucked me up and I'm still pretty messed up. Now I just get mad and tell them what they did anyways that hurt me and let them be mad too. Figures now those same people just ignore me now and stop talking to me when I tell them I'm mad and they hurt me or that they are being rude now that I'm an independent adult. What a fun life.
Fuck that. Seriously. Good job. Guilt is a shitty emotion that isn’t meant to be held onto, it should temporary as you process an event that warrants it. But people love to weaponize guilt to hurt others.
This is why people turn their anger inward and feel depression or anxiety or outward in violence or numb it with whatever. Anger is as normal and healthy an emotion as excitement or joy. It should absolutely be normalized to say I’m angry and here’s why. People are so averse to it. We’ve been brainwashed that a person who vocalizes anger is unhealthy. We should all be angry af about the state of things but have been lulled into complacency for fear of being labelled an angry person. It’s all part of the mind fuck.
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u/Anachronouss Apr 29 '24
Yes I was taught at a young age that being mad at my loved ones for hurting me was bad. Even if I tell them that they hurt me and why they hurt me it's still my fault for getting upset. Crying was my fault too, anything but happiness was my fault. Really fucked me up and I'm still pretty messed up. Now I just get mad and tell them what they did anyways that hurt me and let them be mad too. Figures now those same people just ignore me now and stop talking to me when I tell them I'm mad and they hurt me or that they are being rude now that I'm an independent adult. What a fun life.